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Your life is entirely in your hands

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“They themselves are makers of themselves,” wrote author James Allen many years ago. That is the kind of power a human being possesses. “You will be what you will to be,” he further wrote. Everything you have been, everything you are now and everything you can become is up to you. Your life is like a video game and you have the remote control in your hands. Your success, or lack of it, is entirely up to you.

Jesus Himself taught this truth many centuries ago. “The Kingdom is in your heart,” He taught his disciples. Proverbs 23:7 also teaches that: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he .” Get that?

“Is” here means your current circumstances – your inner character (morality or immorality) – and your outer manifestation (health, poverty, wealth, dependence and so on). Your current circumstance, therefore, is not what influences you; that is simply a revelation of yourself, because as you think, so are you and as you continue to think, so do you remain. In short, you are where you are today because of what you have been thinking.

When temptation, tragedy or misfortune are visited on you, it is your thinking that will determine how you live with your condition. One lame man will crawl to the marketplace to beg for alms, while another without hands will learn to write and paint with his toes. Two women will be coerced to sleep with their boss for a promotion; one will go for it and the other will quit her job in self-respect.

Two men will be retrenched from their jobs; one will shut himself in his house in agony until his children have nothing to eat, are sent away from school for lack of fees and the landlord kicks him out of the house. The other will take up any available menial job or start a food kiosk as he waits for the job that befits him. Two neighbours will be displaced  from their farms following tribal clashes; one will live in a tent in an IDP camp and forever wait for the government to come to his rescue, while the other will live in the camp only momentarily and then move on. The moment he receives the first assistance from friends, family, well-wishers or the government, he abandons his tent and buys a sack of potatoes, which he takes to the market to sell. This becomes the beginning of a successful business and he never wears the title of “IDP” again.

Quoting from James Allen again: “A man can only rise, conquer, and achieve by lifting up his thoughts. He can only remain weak, abject and miserable by refusing to lift up his thoughts.” By thoughts, the writer did not mean daydreaming. Majority of people dismiss such teachings arguing that they have been thinking big but have nothing to show for it. Thinking alone will not get you out of the IDP camp.

You have to use what corporate organisations call ‘strategic thinking’ to get you out. This is thinking geared towards action, and actually taking the required steps to actualise your ideas. Do not imagine yourself graduating with a Master’s degree and holding a big party surrounded by happy villagers who celebrate your achievement in song and dance if you don’t enroll in college. Many people are miserable not because they have nothing, but because they are never satisfied with what they have. A man who is able to take care of his family, educate his children, save a little and give a little back to society should not call himself poor. You don’t have to be a millionaire to feel rich.

Do not wish to become the President of Kenya when you are not even involved in leadership at any level and not taking required measures to ensure you achieve this goal, for example, getting a university education. People who think big but do not work towards acquiring requisite qualifications usually get involved in criminal activities like drug dealing and robberies to achieve their goal – money and fame. These are men who run carjacking cartels but will tell their wives and children that they are in the lucrative vehicle importation business to cover up for their ill-gotten wealth.

So, when you contemplate on the kind of responsibility God has placed in your hands, you will want to abandon your lethargy and helplessness and do something positive with your life . Sometimes I think many people will go to Hell not because they broke one or all of the Ten Commandments, but because they buried their talent, which the Master gave to them.

Your talent is your MIND. God gave it to you so that you can control your life, shape it and direct it to greatness. If you have a mind, which you don’t use, how different are you from one who has no mind? Use your talent. Think. If you are reading this and it hits you that you have not been doing all you could to live a decent life, make up your mind to begin now.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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