Connect with us

Editorial

Brother, No man is worth dying for!

Published

on

Kenyans must be commended for keeping peace throughout the electioneering period. They disappointed journalists from the Western media houses who had been dispatched to a looming warzone – they expected nothing less than a bloodbath and wrote as much prior to the elections. But while we enjoyed the peace, save for a few places where there were demonstrations, I was shocked by the sheer

stupidity of some of our countrymen and women. I would have liked to use a sexier word so as not to annoy their kith and kin, but friends; stupidity by any other name is stupidity.

I am referring to those who committed or attempted suicide because their preferred candidates lost. Philosophers and psychologists agree that to commit suicide is to declare total hopelessness. It is to conclude that life has no meaning and, therefore, to continue living would be absurd. Finally, it is to declare with your actions that not even God can solve your problems.

How can a married man with beautiful children to take care of conclude that life is meaningless? How can he declare, as one of these men told his friends before he hang himself on a tree, that “there is no reason to live if my preferred presidential candidate doesn’t win.” Really? Were his children not enough reason to live for? And now that the man is dead, who takes care of his children? Didn’t he leave them in deeper trouble than that which he hoped his preferred president would get him out of?

I might be too daft to comprehend this but I really cannot think of a reason why anyone should die because of a politician.

Here is a man who is struggling to get a permanent job to feed and educate his children, yet commits suicide because another man who had applied for a job as president, so he too could afford to care for his children and provide them a better life, but didn’t get the job. Here is a married man who commits suicide because his candidate lost; yet the one he died for did not even know the fellow existed.

Are these not the same politicians who throw words at each other during rallies only to meet and drink beer together at night? I will not be surprised if the new president appoints his opponents in the concluded election to head parastatals to cushion them for the next five years. But the dead man’s children will for the next five years suffer hungry nights, drop out of school and his wife…what will happen to her?

OPINION

Former president, Kibaki, is my tribesman. In fact, his Othaya home is a stone’s throw away from my grandfather’s home. But what personal gain did I get from his presidency? Nothing!

I continued to work for the money I needed. I paid my taxes like other people and my landlord had no tolerance for me on account of the retired president. I paid rent like everyone else. What reason could anyone give me for committing suicide because of a president? None! even if I was that president. I think Kenyans need to find better things to die for if they must. They must stop the madness of dying because Arsenal lost a match, or because a candidate lost a race. Students must know, too, that life is more than passing a single examination or losing one relationship. Men need to sacrifice for the future of their children – ensuring they live in decent homes, live healthy lives, eat healthy foods and get a decent education.

Singles should do everything possible to ensure they accomplish their education and talent development goals. They must build relationships that enrich their lives and join movements that challenge them to become better. We all must work with the law of reciprocity. You commit to those who commit to you personally. You do not die for a man who does not know you exist, or who can’t die for you if you were the one running to be president. It is the height of stupidity for a man to claim that he finds no reason to continue living because his team or candidate lost.

Such men need to look for something better to live for. What benefit has accrued for those who committed suicide last month or their families? Brothers, let’s get a life; that’s the minimum the world expects from us.

Continue Reading
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Cover Story

Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

Published

on

While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

Continue Reading

Cover Story

Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

Published

on

While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

Continue Reading

Cover Story

Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

Published

on

There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

Our FREE  e-paper March Issue is here!
As we celebrate our women this month, we bring you the best stories and the most inspiring features to get you going.
Click HERE to read!

Continue Reading

Trending

Copyright © 2017 Zox News Theme. Theme by MVP Themes, powered by WordPress.