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Yar: I escaped child marriage to pursue education and my modelling dream

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Elizabeth Yar is the perfect combination of elegance and poise as she struts the runway with confidence.

The most iconic models in the world are famed for their runway walk. In the same way, on the runway, Elizabeth Yar makes sure viewers are mesmerized by her effortless glide along the catwalk, theatrical arm movements and signature poses at the end.

An aspiring model, Yar looks at home on the runway. Her strut is cool and effortless, just like her! She exudes good energy and a social savoir-faire which belies the adversity she has experienced since she fled her home country in 2012.

A war-filled childhood

Elizabeth grew up in Cueibet County, South Sudan more than two decades ago in a large, happy family. She is the second child of her father’s second wife. She is from the Dinka tribe and proudly stands tall at 5’11. Her childhood was marred by an ever-present civil war. When she reached puberty, her father wanted to marry her off as the third wife to an elderly man, but Yar dreamt of finishing her education and independence.

“In South Sudan, men have all the power over women.” she says. “You have no say.”

To avoid a forced marriage and in pursuit of education, Yar fled South Sudan for Nairobi via bus along with her adult cousin. Her cousin’s family had moved to Nairobi a few years earlier to escape the war in South Sudan and they took her in. She was able to continue her education through the support of a well-wisher who funded her primary education and a scholarship from Jesuit Refugee Service (JRS) which paid for her secondary education. Yar successfully completed high school in 2021.

Through her involvement with JRS, Yar learnt about a free computer training course being offered by RefuSHE and successfully applied for the program. RefuSHE, a non-profit that works to protect, educate, and empower refugee girls and young women, had recently launched a full-spectrum IT training program – covering everything from basic computer skills to cybersecurity- to help equip young refugee women with advanced digital skills that they can leverage for income generation.

Lije Yar, refugees in Kenya face a significant challenge accessing higher education due to the limited work opportunities available to them to be able to afford the tuition and boarding costs. When higher education is available, it is typically through scholarships which are few and far between.

Yar desperately wanted to further her learning and was excited at the opportunity to join RefuSHE. She was a complete beginner, having never interacted with computers at all and looked forward to developing relevant digital skills. Along with learning basic computer skills, Yar also learnt how to operate as an online freelancer through data entry, transcription, and translation tasks.

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Walking the runway

As she continued to build new digital skills, Yar nurtured her passion in fashion and modelling, her favourite fashion icons being supermodels Naomi Campbell and Adut Akech. She would religiously watch them on YouTube during school holidays and imitate their runway walk as she yearned to follow in their footsteps one day.

Eventually, she got the opportunity to grace the stage during RefuSHE’s Project-Runway inspired Fashion -Challenge 2022 event. The Challenge which was held virtually and hosted by Somali American model Halima Aden, featured diverse haute couture looks from nine Kenyan designers. Each designer was paired with a refugee in the RefuSHE program whose story helped inspire the look. The runway looks were then judged by a panel including fashion journalist and CIO Africa Editor-in-Chief, Carol Odero, Founder and Chief Creative Designer of KAHINDO, Kahindo Mateene, Vice President of Design at Kendra Scott, Denise Chumlea, Vice President of Strategic Community Engagement & External Affairs at Best Buy, Amelia Hardy and Co-Founder and CEO of Isthmus App, Carley Lake.

Photographer: @captaintenacious

Yar’s story inspired the winning look designed by the eponymous label MK Monica Kanari. This look consisted of a long flowy dress with several beaded necklaces running down the entire front and back to symbolize her cultural identity. In Yar’s community, when girls reached menarche, their family presented them with jewelry to mark their blossoming adulthood. The richer the family was, the longer it was. Unfortunately, Yar never received her jewelry before fleeing her home country. However, hearing her story inspired the designer Monica Kanari so much that she determined that she would give Yar the longest jewelry possible.

Designer Monica Kanari

Serving as the inspiration and model of the winning look was an exciting victory for Yar. It felt really special and helped her realize that although her story was both sobering and humbling, it was powerful and worth telling. Significantly, it showed that no matter how bleak the circumstances, anything is possible, and we must never give up.

Yar was fortunate enough to receive a scholarship to pursue higher education and is currently studying Community Development at Marist College while still pursuing work as a model. This vibrant, ambitious, and intriguing face on a mission to captivate catwalks around the world is one to watch.

About RefuSHE

RefuSHE protects, educates, and empowers orphaned, unaccompanied, and separated refugee girls and young women in Nairobi, Kenya.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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