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What you need to know about breaking up with someone you love

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If breaking up with some you have come to dislike is hard, then breaking up with someone you love is going to gut you. Here is everything you need to know about breaking up.

Before the Breakup

Rethink your doubts

Take a step back and look at what your doubts are actually about. Is it one thing that is causing the doubt or are there other issues? Does the doubt stem from something inside you or somewhere else?

Doubts are not uncommon in relationships. However, when doubt is increasingly and dominantly disturbing you, then it could be genuine and could be a sign that the relationship has run its course.

Sometimes love is not enough

It is important to talk about the things that make or break each of you. This could be about whether you want children or not, or even where you want to live. Such things need to be addressed as they will affect the outcome of your relationship.

Be honest with each other when love is no longer enough. It is key that you are both on the same page and if not, part your ways despite your feelings for each other. It’s difficult but healthier.

Just do it!

If you decide to break up with your partner, do it! It does not matter how beautiful or handsome they are.  Switch on your will-power button and drive through the hard wall. When you make the decision, then there is no turning back.

Brace yourself

Break-ups are hard to go through. It is a painful process that can even cause depression and you might need a therapist to talk to.  Some people say that emotional pain is worse than physical pain. Whatever the case, the bottom line is that you need to be prepared.

The break up remains a sober decision despite all the pain.

During the Breakup

Break up in person

Having been in a relationship, there is a bond that requires to be honoured by meeting your partner and breaking up in person. Find a place where both of you are comfortable and talk. An email or text won’t do.

Be courageous and face him or her. It will not be easy but it will be necessary.  An in-person break-up is a show of respect and stern resolve.

Be open and honest

Be prepared for a reaction. Whatever reaction it is, be prepared to face it with openness and honesty. Keep calm and deal with it. Your partner will need a lot of questions answered. Why? How? When? What? It matters that you do your best to answer them truthfully. This emptying of your soul is what will give you a clean slate, knowing that you did your best to give closure.

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After the Breakup

Take care of your heart

Breaking up does not mean that your feelings for each other die immediately. You will miss your ex-partner and you will want to call them and hear their voice one more time. However, you need time to process the whole situation. You will need to take care of your heart that you do not let it become worn out from all the pain and uncertainty. Also, give your ex-partner time and space. It will do both of you good.

Use your support system to get through it

After the break-up, you will need a lot of support. Keep family close and reconnect with old friends. In case it gets too hard, be proactive and visit a therapist. There is no shame in asking for help.

Additionally, you can pick up a new hobby as a form of healthy distraction. By all means, keep moving forward.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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