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Things to do if your husband loses his job

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Most women crave stability and security, and some of this is entrenched in their husbands keeping the jobs they have. If for the longest time he has had a job then he suddenly loses it, both of you may feel like a rug has been pulled from under your feet. As a partner, it is best to recognize your obligation in supporting your husband through his job loss. We have listed things to do if your husband loses his job, that will hopefully make the situation more manageable.

Encourage him

This is a dark time for him. For most men, their feelings of worth are attached to being able to provide for their families. Losing their jobs may frustrate them. Do not let him go that direction. Encourage him to look up and keep moving. You can be his best cheerleader at this point.

No pity party

Much as you want to show him that you are a supportive wife, avoid showing him too much pity. This will only make him feel more miserable. Encourage him but be a source of strength for him.

Understand him

Be more patient with him. Job loss is always followed by a period of grief, and people mourn differently. He may be more moody, sullen and angry. Put yourself in your shoes and understand him when he is acting out of turn. Also, unemployment can trigger anxiety and depression. Be on the lookout for long sad spells and seek help for him.

Watch your mouth

You might be frustrated by the whole situation, but try and be sensitive when you speak with him. Avoid complaining about the things you are no longer able to afford. You might at some point feel overwhelmed and probably feel he is not doing enough to right the situation. Remember, if you are feeling frustrated, he probably feels many times more frustrated. More so, sometimes you might say things just in passing, with no intent to point to his situation. It might hit him the wrong way. Approach conversations tactfully.

Cut down on spending

Loss of job will come with a substantial decrease in income. You might not be able to keep up the lifestyle you were both used to. This calls for prior planning and cutting out luxuries and unnecessary spending.

ALSO READ: How to stick to a budget to reach financial goals 

Seek opportunities for extra income

You can both sit down and discuss opportunities for extra income that both of you can pursue. While he is at home, it is best that he does not remain alone and doing nothing. Remember what the devil does with idle minds – he transforms them into his workshops. Find something to keep him busy. It might not bring much, but it will keep him busy and he will be contributing.

ALSO READ: Hardships can strengthen marriage 

Accept help

People may step in to help when they hear of your husband loses his job. Do not let your pride bar you from accepting genuine, well-meaning help.

Take care of yourself

Do not even try to  hide from the fact that his job loss has taken a toll on you. Do not drive your self too hard. Rest, before your body and mind demands it. Be in touch with your feelings and take appropriate breaks.

Communicate

People who have lost their jobs tend to feel embarrassed and blame themselves for the situation. They might even feel unworthy in other people’s eyes. It can be hard to have a conversation with them on this matter because they will always find a way to skirt the issue. Approach every conversation with tact. Neither of you should bottle up their feelings. Ensure you have even the tough conversations, like those concerning bills, because most resentment stem from them.

ALSO READ: Things to do while waiting for a job 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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