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THE CAMOUFLAGED CRISIS

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THE CAMOUFLAGED CRISIS

 

Have you ever heard of the code of silence? It is a situation where individuals choose to remain quiet and withhold important information. This culture of silence can exist in almost any setting, but it’s most common among uniformed officers. Today, a war is raging in the classroom, with high-ranking officials covering up and slowing the due process. But I am getting ahead of myself, so allow me to start at the beginning.

I have fond memories of my time in school. Many teachers were kind and compassionate, and some even made me their protégé. My English teachers, in particular, took a liking to me and are largely responsible for developing my writing skills. For this, I am eternally grateful. As a result, it saddens me that students nowadays have horrific stories about being severely beaten.

Two days ago, BBC Africa uploaded a video of the prevalence of corporal punishment in Kenyan schools. While this was outlawed in 2001, it is still in use in many schools. For example, even while I was in school, the cane was frequently used. Why is this practice still being used? Where should the line be drawn between discipline and cruel and inhuman torture? How do we measure how much is enough and what exceeds ‘normalcy’? These are the questions on my mind after seeing that video.

Caleb, a fifteen-year-old student, was severely beaten by an older student on the school director’s orders for a chapati worth 50 Kenyan Shillings. He ended up in a coma for months and eventually needed skin grafts. Sixteen-year-old Serfin was hospitalized after a teacher beat her over a failed examination. Her teacher, a renown drunken with discipline issues, caned her mercilessly, and she may never walk again. While these two are survivors, Martha, the mother of Ebbie Noelle, is not as lucky. Her daughter succumbed to her injuries after the deputy principal of her school beat her over the manner in which she wore her hair. While these stories are heartbreaking, they don’t exist in isolation because many students have been on the receiving end of the dreaded cane. A majority have scars to show, but some have never lived to tell the tale.

What bothers me most is that the systems that have been put in place to address this rarely work because these individuals would rather protect one another than those they are responsible for. In Serfin’s story, the head teacher denies that the cane is used in the school in spite of Serfin’s story and the testimony of other girls. The man who inflicted these injuries on her was transferred to another school, and in an interview, he denied laying a finger on her. Serfin’s parents also reported the incident to the Teachers Service Commission (TSC), which provided no assistance. They report them to her principal, who refers them to the teacher, and so on. It took years for Caleb and Ebbie’s abusers to see the inside of a courtroom.

I pose these questions to you in a bid to try to understand this crisis. How is the TSC supposed to help victims when their allegiance is to their own? Can a head teacher really not know that the cane is used in his school? Was transferring Serfin’s teacher the right decision? Is a hairstyle or a few pieces of chapati worthy of critical injuries or death?

I am set to take my son to school for the first time in four months, and I am concerned. Can we discipline children without using violence? If I inflict physical pain on my son in the name of discipline, am I conditioning his behavior with violence? Is there a better way to discipline children? They say African children learn through the skin, so must we inflict physical pain for them to learn discipline? But my biggest concern, however, is: how do I entrust my son to the hands of an institution that will betray its obligations to him as soon as the situation calls for it?

The debate on corporal punishment continues to challenge us to seek alternative, constructive disciplinary methods that prioritize children’s well-being and development.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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