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Talking to couples trying to conceive: A guide

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We’ve all been there, trying to find the right words when a friend or loved one is going through a tough time. While your intentions might be good, certain words can unintentionally cause pain or discomfort.

Infertility is a journey that many face in silence, behind closed doors.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 16.4 percent of the adult population in Africa experiences infertility.

Navigating conversations around infertility can be challenging, especially when you’re talking to someone who is struggling to conceive.

 

 

A guide on what not to say and better alternatives that offer support and empathy

Don’t say – you can always adopt 

Many people dealing with infertility have already explored or are aware of adoption. Suggesting it can unintentionally imply that they haven’t done enough research or aren’t open to other possibilities.

They may feel like you are trying to quickly solve their problem rather than acknowledge their pain.

Adoption in Kenya is not a walk in the park and can take a toll on you financially and emotionally.

Instead, say you’re there to support them no matter what path they choose.

This shows respect for their personal journey, whether they decide to pursue adoption, fertility treatments or other options.

Don’t say – just get an IVF

While In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) offers the best chance of success, it’s not a guarantee that it will work for everyone.

It is a complex procedure that can be quite expensive and emotionally draining especially if it fails. The average cost of IVF starts from Ksh. 400,000.

Instead, you can suggest seeking advice from a healthcare professional or fertility specialist.

Don’t say – just relax and it will happen

This statement is dismissive and suggests that the reason they aren’t pregnant is because they are anxious.

Trying for a baby and not being successful is unbelievably stressful. Infertility is a medical condition that often requires professional treatment and simply relaxing isn’t a magic solution for a successful pregnancy.

Instead, you can say, “I can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you. I‘m here for you.
This shows you acknowledge their struggle without downplaying it.

It shows that you’re supportive and ready to listen without offering unsolicited advice.

Don’t say – everything happens for a reason

This falls under the category of “things to never say to anyone”.

For someone who is struggling with repeated pregnancy failures or facing the prospect of not being able to have children, this phrase comes off as very insensitive.

It suggests that they are suffering for a purpose or it could imply that the situation is out of their hands.
You should say, “I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is incredibly unfair and hard. I’m here to listen if you ever need to talk.

This response validates their feelings and acknowledges the unfairness of their situation without trying to justify it.

Don’t say – you are young, you still have time

Young people can also face challenges trying to conceive and this might suggest that their fears and anxieties about infertility are unjust simply because they are young.

It may also suggest that they have “plenty of time” and this can create a false sense of security, potentially delaying necessary medical intervention.

One can say, “I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It must be really difficult.”

This response acknowledges their struggle without making assumptions based on their age.

Don’t ask – who has a problem, him or her?

Avoid asking this accusatory question at all cost.

It shifts blame and implies that one partner is solely responsible for the couple’s fertility challenge.

It pressures the couple to disclose private medical information that they may not be comfortable sharing.
Instead, you can ask how they’re both holding up.

This acknowledges that both partners are involved in the journey, without assigning blame or meddling into personal details.

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Heartbreak as Body of 12-Year-Old Blessed Claire Muthoni Arrives Home from India

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Kenyans are mourning the loss of Blessed Claire Muthoni, a brave 12-year-old girl from Kihuri in Othaya, Nyeri County, who passed away while undergoing specialised cancer treatment in New Delhi. Claire had been fighting stage 4 cancer for over three years.

The aggressive disease took a heavy toll on her young body, eventually leading to the amputation of one of her legs. Despite the pain and the many challenges she faced, Claire remained hopeful and courageous throughout her journey, inspiring many who followed her story.

On January 19, 2026, she travelled to India with her mother in search of advanced treatment aimed at saving her remaining leg and managing the cancer that had spread to her lungs. The journey was filled with hope, supported by Kenyans from all walks of life who contributed towards her treatment and kept her in their prayers.

A brave fight

While in India, Claire underwent several chemotherapy sessions. Unfortunately, her condition worsened after developing complications, leading to her admission to the Intensive Care Unit. She passed away in hospital last week, leaving behind a grieving family and a nation that had stood with her.

On Monday, March 30, 2026, her remains arrived at Jomo Kenyatta International Airport. The atmosphere at the airport was filled with grief as family members, friends and well-wishers gathered to receive her. Her mother returned home alone, carrying a loss no parent should have to endure.

Claire will be laid to rest in her home area of Othaya in the coming days, as her family begins the difficult process of saying their final goodbyes.

Her story touched thousands across the country, many of whom followed her journey through updates and fundraising efforts. She became a symbol of strength and resilience, and her passing has deeply affected those who had hoped to see her recover.

Beyond the grief, her story has once again brought attention to the challenges families face when dealing with childhood cancer in Kenya. The high cost of specialised treatment, limited access to advanced care locally, and the emotional and financial strain on families often force many to seek treatment abroad.

Read our March issue here 

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Heartbreak as Body of 12-Year-Old Blessed Claire Muthoni Arrives Home from India

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Kenyans are mourning the loss of Blessed Claire Muthoni, a brave 12-year-old girl from Kihuri in Othaya, Nyeri County, who passed away while undergoing specialised cancer treatment in New Delhi. Claire had been fighting stage 4 cancer for over three years.

The aggressive disease took a heavy toll on her young body, eventually leading to the amputation of one of her legs. Despite the pain and the many challenges she faced, Claire remained hopeful and courageous throughout her journey, inspiring many who followed her story.

On January 19, 2026, she travelled to India with her mother in search of advanced treatment aimed at saving her remaining leg and managing the cancer that had spread to her lungs. The journey was filled with hope, supported by Kenyans from all walks of life who contributed towards her treatment and kept her in their prayers.

A brave fight

While in India, Claire underwent several chemotherapy sessions. Unfortunately, her condition worsened after developing complications, leading to her admission to the Intensive Care Unit. She passed away in hospital last week, leaving behind a grieving family and a nation that had stood with her.

On Monday, March 30, 2026, her remains arrived at Jomo Kenyatta International Airport. The atmosphere at the airport was filled with grief as family members, friends and well-wishers gathered to receive her. Her mother returned home alone, carrying a loss no parent should have to endure.

Claire will be laid to rest in her home area of Othaya in the coming days, as her family begins the difficult process of saying their final goodbyes.

Her story touched thousands across the country, many of whom followed her journey through updates and fundraising efforts. She became a symbol of strength and resilience, and her passing has deeply affected those who had hoped to see her recover.

Beyond the grief, her story has once again brought attention to the challenges families face when dealing with childhood cancer in Kenya. The high cost of specialised treatment, limited access to advanced care locally, and the emotional and financial strain on families often force many to seek treatment abroad.

Read our March issue here 

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Shock as Section of Gikomba Shoe Market Demolished Overnight

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Traders at Nairobi’s bustling Gikomba Market are counting heavy losses after a section of the popular shoe market (mitumba shoe section) was demolished overnight by Nairobi City County enforcement teams. The operation took place in the early hours of Tuesday morning.

Videos and photos circulating on social media show destroyed merchandise and devastated traders who arrived at the market this morning to find their businesses in ruins. According to reports, the county government carried out the demolition after an eviction notice lapsed. This happened even though the High Court (Environment and Land Court) had earlier issued and extended conservatory orders in March 2026, halting mass demolitions and evictions at Gikomba and surrounding areas along the Nairobi River.

Repeated demolitions

Demolitions at Gikomba are not new. As far back as 1977, the original market was brought down by the government to pave the way for light industries. In recent years, attention has shifted to the riparian land along the Nairobi River, with authorities proposing to expand the buffer zone from 30 metres to 50 metres in a bid to control flooding.

Many traders have raised concerns over what they describe as poor consultation, shifting relocation plans and the lack of a clear and secure alternative site. There are also growing fears that the process could open the door to land grabbing and cartel involvement.

Impact

For most traders at Gikomba, the market is more than just a place of business. It is their only source of livelihood. Repeated fires and demolitions have created a cycle of uncertainty, financial strain and constant rebuilding. Many small business owners say they struggle to recover after each loss, only to face another setback months later.

Calls for improved fire safety measures, fair relocation plans and meaningful engagement with authorities continue to grow louder. Without long term and sustainable solutions, Gikomba traders will continue to bear the high cost of operating in one of Nairobi’s busiest yet most vulnerable markets.

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