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STORIES OF HOPE: How one couple is saving pregnant teenage girls

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Tracy Kinyanjui

In 2009 and at the age of 14, Tracy Kinyanjui found out she was pregnant. She had just dropped out of high school because her family couldn’t afford her school fees and the pregnancy was going to deter her further in life – or so she thought.

Terrified, Tracy kept the news of her pregnancy to herself. However, her mum summoned her one day and asked her if the pregnancy rumours about her were true.

“I looked at her on the face and lied that I was not pregnant. But I guess mothers always know. She made it clear that I was now on my own,” Tracy explains although she still took care of Tracy until she gave birth to her daughter, Brigitte Kinyanjui, on December 5, 2010.

“However, soon after, my mother got into depression when she learnt that she was pregnant with her third child. I had just gotten my baby, which meant there was going to be a further financial strain on her. She turned violent and would chase us away from time to time,” Tracy explains.

Tracy found refuge in her elder brother’s home and it was while there that a family friend introduced her to Wings of Compassion, a centre that offered a feeding programme and counselling to teenage mothers. She would leave her baby at the centre as she sought menial jobs.

“It was then that I was enrolled in adult education and was able to complete my secondary education. Afterwards, I pursued a course in beauty and got a job at a salon. I have currently partnered with a friend and established a salon business in Marurui, which I am confident will soon pick up and enable me to establish myself and my family financially,” she enthusiastically shares.

She has also reconnected with her mother and has a great relationship with her.

Elizabeth Matangi

While in form four, Elizabeth Matangi began a relationship with an older man. Their relationship was only a few months old when Elizabeth fell pregnant. She broke the news to him and his response was a rather loud silence. The next thing she knew he had changed his telephone number.

Elizabeth says her parents were always very liberal throughout her upbringing. She used to study in Machakos, which was a bit far from home and her parents were unaware of her lifestyle at school.  Although she doesn’t blame them for her pregnancy, she acknowledges that their relaxed style of parenting somehow gave her the freedom to think she could easily get away with things without their knowledge.

When Elizabeth completed her KCSE, she didn’t go home to her parents. Instead, she sought accommodation at her elder sister’s house.

As the pregnancy grew, they could no longer hide it from their parents.

Her parents’ reaction was that of disappointment. Her dad especially felt that Elizabeth’s schooling life had come to an end and with no hope of her advancing her education further, he advised her to bring up her child and hope to get married someday.

In 2011, one of Elizabeth’s aunts introduced her to Wings of Compassion.

The centre enrolled her for a course in secretarial studies, which she has since completed. Although so far she has had jobs on contract basis, she hopes to eventually get a permanent job and be able to provide a decent life for her child.

Danshire Njoroge – Wings of Compassion founder

Rev. Danshire Njoroge and his wife Tabitha Dorcas have been providing help to pre-teen mothers in Kasarani, Nairobi since 2011. The inspiration behind it is heartbreaking.

“My wife and I had been volunteers at a certain children’s home for several years. One of the teenage girls. The policy was if a girl got pregnant, she had to leave the home immediately as she was seen to be a bad influence. This particular girl went to live with relatives in Malindi. We had calculated her time of delivery and once we were sure the baby must have been born, we made a trip there. When we asked to see her, we were directed to her grave in the family’s backyard. She had committed suicide. It was then we knew we had to do something. No other girl was going to fall through the cracks on our watch,” he explains adding suicide calls are not uncommon at the centre.

Danshire explains that some of the pregnancies are not always as a result of mischief.

“Some of the girls are victims of incest. The youngest pregnant girl we have ever received is a 10-year-old street girl who had been gang-raped. She wanted to abort the pregnancy but with counselling and private tuition, she has flourished. She joined class 8 in 2017. She is the top mathematics student in her class but when we found her, she had never attended a single school lesson!” exclaims Danshire.

Dorcas Tabitha adds,  “We focus on delivery first. Thereafter, we find out what they want to achieve career-wise. We hire babysitters to look after the babies. At the moment we have three and the first one comes in at 6 am when the first girl is leaving for school and the last one leaves at 7 pm when the last girl comes back from school.”

The last phase of the programme involves finding job placements for the girls.

The biggest challenge the institution continues to face is finances.

“The girls are in private schools for their protection. Some well-wishers pay for their school fees but sometimes, they cannot attend classes because we do not have bus fare. We have to part with Ksh5000 every week for them to get to school. They are also nursing mothers and that means their nutritional needs are higher than those of regular girls. Since they are not allowed to carry food to school, they have to buy from the school canteen, which is costly,” Dorcas Tabitha concludes.

To reach Wings of Compassion, call 0721896609 or 0722169994

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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