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Personal growth: Improving oneself

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Zig Ziglar, a renowned American author and motivational speaker, once said, “People are designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with the seeds of greatness.” How true. While we may all agree with Ziglar’s sentiments, majority of us do not reach their potential. In fact, very few people die totally satisfied with the fact that they did everything, and were everything they could have been. One of the biggest tragedy of life is that majority of us are complacent with just getting by, being comfortable with minimising the pains in life and developing a maintenance mentality that does not strive for mastery. The result? Mediocrity. The remedy? Continuous personal growth.

We all desire to live a life of excellence as God had intended, but very few are willing to pay the price. The highfliers in life are those who are continually committed to learn and grow in every aspect of their lives. Those that have chosen to push boundaries and move out of their comfort zone in order to realise their potential. They have understood that greatness does not come from genetics or parental modelling, but through discipline, diligence and a deep willingness to constantly improve oneself. Truth is, to grow on the outside, you must grow on the inside. There are no two ways about it, for external growth devoid of internal growth is a sure recipe for destruction.

Benjamin Franklin, one of the founding fathers of America, understood this concept only too well. He practiced what he called the 13-week programme. He jotted down 13 virtues that he wanted to practice in his life. He then assigned one of these virtues to each week and he would concentrate on that virtue the entire week. By doing so, he was able to devote at least four weeks of concentrated self-improvement on each of the virtues per year. He later in life declared that this custom was likely the key that steered him to achieve everything he did. Simply put, Franklin had committed himself to personal growth.

Personal growth is multifaceted and it revolves around understanding what is important to you, recognising your weaknesses, striving for balance and the realisation that your perspectives and ideas are only a small percentage of who you really are. Indeed, Thomas Edison once put it, “If we did all the things we were capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.”

Personal growth has everything to do with success and not just in the financial perspective. Genuine success is success that reverberates in our relationships, career, family life and health. The outcome is a balanced and fulfilled life. Personal growth ensures that we do not live a robotic life, repeating the same patterns of behaviour day in day out. It also ensures that you become in charge of your own life; what Richard Swenson, author of Living Above the Level of Mediocrity, calls the margin.

He writes, “Marginless is being thirty minutes late to the doctor’s office because you were twenty minutes late to getting out of the hairdresser’s because you were ten minutes late dropping the children off at school because the car ran out of gas two blocks from the gas station – and you forgot your purse. Margin on the other hand is having breath left at the top of the staircase, money left at the end of the month and sanity left at the end of adolescence.”

 

Let personal development be your numero uno priority.

 

Reflections

I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not shrink to a grain of sand. Henceforth will I apply all my efforts to become the highest mountain of all and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy.

Og Mandino (1923-1996), American Author

 

The important thing is this: to be ready at any moment to sacrifice what you are for what you could become.

Charles Dickens (1812-1870), English writer and social critic

Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.

Brian Tracy, Canadian self-help author

If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.

Nora Roberts, American bestselling author

Your thoughts

Someone told me that human beings find themselves in a sewer, sort of. Many remain in the sewer cursing and blaming everything and everyone. But the people who make it in life are those who struggle out of the sewer and embark on a journey of self-awareness. These people realise that what happens to them is just part of the story. The bigger part is how they respond to what happens to them. You get out of the sewer by choosing to deal with your problems; you get out and seek the training you need to get started in a career; you get the emotional development you need to handle life stresses and so on. It is only when one is sufficiently self-aware that self-development is realised.

 Martin Mwangi, Journalist

 

Published in April 2015

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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