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I am a Survivor: Set on Fire by my Girlfriend While Sleeping

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Samuel Mbithi, who has endured the unimaginable treatment by a girlfriend, shares his harrowing experience. In a calm and measured voice, he narrates the events of that day…

“I want people to know what happened to me, and how I survived. It changed me forever,” he starts.

This is the story of a man whose life was nearly destroyed by love and betrayal, and how he continues to rebuild himself, both physically and mentally.

In early 2012, Samuel Mbithi, a young man from a humble background, fell in love for the first time. Fresh out of high school, he met a girl through a friend, and their connection was instant.

“I was twenty and I felt this was the kind of love you read about in books,” he recalls.

He was so certain she was the one he wanted to marry, move in with, and even introduce to his parents. But the love story he imagined had a dark undercurrent. Samuel would later learn that while he was fully devoted to her, she had another man behind the scenes.

“We were using the same phone,” Samuel explains. “I would go to work with it, and in the evening, she would use it to talk to her friends. I would find suggestive messages, but I could not connect the dots. I was naïve,” he adds.

The truth revealed itself one afternoon. A persistent call to their shared phone forced Samuel to answer. On the other line was a man looking for his girlfriend.

“He told me she had said she lived with her uncle and used her cousin’s phone at night. ‘I’m guessing you’re the cousin?’” Samuel recalls, his voice still trembling at the memory.

Confronting her brought only denial. She claimed the other man was harassing her. Determined to protect himself, Samuel decided to confront the man directly. To his shock, the man admitted he was married and had no intention of leaving his wife.

Not satisfied with just words, Samuel arranged to meet the man in person. He was directed to the man’s home, and there, to his disbelief, he found his girlfriend inside. Devastated, Samuel left without saying a word.

Soon after, the girlfriend returned home, claiming that the man had chased her away. Heartbroken and betrayed, Samuel asked his girlfriend to leave.

“She followed me the next day, asking to talk,” Samuel remembers. “I was furious. I asked her to leave my house. I went back to sleep on my mattress on the floor of our corrugated iron sheet house. I even gave her 2,000 shillings for transport,” he says.

But instead of leaving, she borrowed a matchbox from a neighbour. “I overheard her telling the neighbour, ‘Unajua naeza ua mtu’ (do you know I can kill someone?)” Samuel says, adding he wishes he had taken it seriously.

That threat became horrifyingly real a few minutes later. While Samuel slept, his girlfriend poured paraffin over him and set him on fire.

“It all happened so fast. Everything – the mattress and beddings, the house, the furniture, and the utensils – was on fire. I could not understand what was happening. I looked for water to put out the fire, while screaming for help,” he recalls.

Neighbours watched helplessly while the woman ran away, but was eventually caught by a mob. When the police arrived, both were taken in the same vehicle, Samuel in pain from burns, and the woman beaten by the crowd. Samuel spent three months in the hospital. Due to inadequate care, he developed keloids, leaving permanent scars, and underwent months of skin graft surgeries, removing healthy skin from other parts of his body to reconstruct the burned areas.

The legal system offered little comfort. The woman was released on cash bail, and by February 2013, the case was dismissed due to lack of evidence.

“I was still in the hospital, fighting to survive, while she walked free. It was unbearable,” Samuel says.

The emotional toll was just as heavy as the physical. “I hated her. I hated all women, I hated my mother and sisters for a while too, because I felt alone in the world,” he admits. “But counselling helped me. I had to heal mentally, or I would have stayed broken forever,” he adds.

Today, in 2025, Samuel continues to undergo skin graft procedures. The scars on his body are permanent, but he has regained control of his life and his mental health.

“I have internally healed,” he says. “I still hope for justice, but I have learned to live beyond the pain,” he adds.

Samuel’s story is a reminder that health is more than physical; it is emotional, mental, and spiritual. It is about surviving betrayal, trauma, and the scars life leaves behind. His journey is one of courage and the determination to reclaim life after unimaginable suffering.

“Even though I went through fire, literally and figuratively, I am still here. My body is healing, my mind is healing, and my spirit is not broken,” he concludes.

This piece was published in the Dec 2025 Special Festive Issue. Read the whole Special Festive Issue 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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