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How to use lube for great sex

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Vaginal lubricants or simply lube, have not been embraced in our society as much as they should, most of it assisted by the ignorance surrounding this topic. While there is self lubrication when a woman is sexually aroused,  at times is not enough. This can result in pain and overall sexual frustration.

Lubricants during sex are very important especially for ladies who suffer dryness during sex or produce less natural lube as a result of either of the following; medication, aging and menopause or hormonal imbalance. Artificial lubricants come into play and help enhance and boost intimacy, arousal and ensure that friction is reduced during penetration.

Whether you’re looking to increase your lube collection or are just starting out your experimentation with one, here is a complete guide on different types of lubricants and pro tips that will make your sex life more thrilling.

Oil-based lubes

They are inexpensive, extremely slippery and are easily accessible. The downside of this type of lube is that it can’t be used with latex or rubber products as it damages them. An example of latex condoms. So if you are not planning to use condom this lube would be a good choice.

Oil-based lubes are also very hard to wash out and can stain or even ruin your sheets. When using this lube, opt to utilize your old sheets instead of staining new ones. Oil based lubes can also irritate the skin especially if you are allergic to their ingredients. Before using this lube, check with your partner to ensure that they are not allergic to the product.

ALSO READ: Sex does not loosen the vagina

Sadly, oils can trap bacteria in the vagina and anus leading to infection. If you are prone to yeast infections do some thorough research before using oil as your lubricant

ExampleS of oil-based lubes are: baby oil, petroleum jelly, creams and coconut oil.

Water-based lubes

These lubes are the best for intercourse especially if you are planning on using a condom, since they rarely cause breakages.The problem with water-based lubes is that they dry out easily and you have to reapply them every time this happens. Most over-the counter lubricants are safe for a lot people especially when used as per instructions .

ALSO READ: Reasons why women fake orgasms

There are two types of water-based lubes; one with glycerin and one without. The one with glycerin is sweet to the taste and is the best especially if your a couple that switches between oral sex and penetration.The sugar content in the one with glycerin can contribute to yeast infection, however. Both of these varieties can tend to be sticky over time.  An example is KLY Water-based lubricant.

Silicone based lubes

They last longer than water-based lubes are very silky, odorless, and smooth. They are the best for shower sex because they don’t wash off easily. Although it can last longer, washing it off from your body will need scrubbing which can irritate the skin. This lube adds extra sensation and is condom-safe.

If you are one to use silicone sex toys, silicone lubes are not advisable as they can break them down.

Lubes can break or build your sexual experience. If you use either of the lubes aforementioned and they affect you and your partner, talk to a doctor.

IN CASE YOU MISSED IT: The Ultimate Guide to HEALTHY SEX

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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