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How to deal with cyberbullying

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Cyberbullying is any form of harassment that occurs online. As long as the other person feels offended, it can be referred to as bullying.

It often includes posting or sending offensive or hurtful comments and/or videos, issuing threats of harm or encouraging someone to hurt themselves, spreading rumours, or impersonating another person to cause them harm or embarrassment.

According to research by The African Journal of Information Systems, the highest form of victimization was through the act of deception, in which 75.8% of the respondents indicated someone had lied to them electronically. On the other hand, the highest form of perpetration of cyberbullying was through malice, in which 49.7% of the respondents reported sending a rude message to someone electronically.

So how do you deal with cyberbullying?

Do not reply immediately

Replying immediately will only make the situation worse as you might end up engaging in an online war with the offender. It is advisable to go offline for a while then come back when you are relaxed. This will not only give you time to evaluate the situation but also give you a clear head to reply the right way.

Do not take the abuses, insults or comments personally

Comments made by cyberbullies have nothing to do with you and your personality. Therefore, do not take them personally. Do not let those statements change you or make you doubt your beliefs or ways of life. Instead, just brush them off.

Ignore offensive comments

When you’re in the middle of a cyberbullying attack, it may feel like the person who is cyberbullying you is literally in the room with you, shouting things in your ear and demanding your attention.

However, it doesn’t have to be that way. You can limit the time you spend on social media to a few hours a day, or whatever you feel is right with you. This way, the bullying won’t feel recurrent, you should take a break from social media to take care of your mental and emotional health.

Keep yourself busy

Engaging your mind in other activities will offer the best distraction for you which works perfectly fine in avoiding cyberbullying. Taking part in a sport or your favourite hobby can help you overcome this.

Keep relevant evidence for investigations

Screenshots are the best way for you to report an instance of cyberbullying. After all, the person who’s cyberbullying you may delete their comment or photo when they realize that it might get them in trouble. Screenshots will ensure you always have a copy of what was said.

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Report and block

Most social media sites want to help you feel safe online. They don’t want you to experience cyberbullying, either, so they have a lot of built-in tools to keep you safe. Applications such as Twitter, Facebook and Instagram have quick access features that help you report abusive comments. Worry about your mental health and consider blocking people who attempt to bully you.

Talk about it

Sometimes we tend to keep quiet about cyberbullying as it develops and that should not be the case. When you notice that someone is frequently harassing you, talk to someone else about it. This will help you get a second opinion about how to deal with the issue. It will also prevent you from making irrational decisions.

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Sympathize

Always remember that happy and secure people do not bully others. People who bully others are going through a difficult time themselves and will often need a lot of help and support. That doesn’t mean what they are doing is right but it gives you some assurance that it is not your fault.

Follow up when you’re calmer

After you’ve taken a break from social media for a while, and you hopefully feel calmer, you can now respond to whatever was said, that is if you feel up to it, maybe even with a friend or family member in the room with you. The idea at this stage is to get a proper feel of the situation before contacting the person who is cyberbullying you.

Using calm, neutral language, try to work out the situation with the person without letting them get to you. They might not even realize that you interpreted their actions as cyberbullying, so a calm conversation is a good place to start.

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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