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Happiness Ndanu: Mental health advocate on a mission to spread hope

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Happiness Ndanu knew she had to do two things with her life: cope with her situation and give back to the society while at it. At 21,the Kotex She Can winner is living her dream and as she tells MBEKE WAMBUA, she is only getting started.

Happiness Ndanu aka Happy was only 19 years old when she fully came into terms with her condition. For a great chunk of her teens, she had battled with depression.

As she approaches for the interview, you can see life and excitement written on her lit face and eyes. She greets me with enthusiasm and the dialogue commences with normal pleasantries.

“Apart from being a student at Dedan Kimathi pursuing Bachelor in food science and technology, I am a mental health champion, advocate and the founder of Kijana Jasiri Foundation, a non-profit organization that creates awareness on mental health among the youth and  teenagers in Kenya,” says the first born of a family of two.

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In Happy’s case, her left leg was larger than the right and being a teenager, she had a hard time accepting her body image and used to feel inadequate, not beautiful enough and minute which led to low self-esteem.

One thing led to another and she developed anxiety issues and slipped into depression without realizing it. Unfortunately, she was not able to speak up about her struggles hence the long journey to diagnosis. However, she finally came to a place of acceptance, thanks to her supportive family and supportive companions who stood by her, and she was able to seek professional aid.

In her podcast titled ‘Mental Optimism’, she shares her experience right from primary school when she started realizing the change in her foot as her body went through adolescence and no ready-made shoe from the famous BATA company fit. The podcast aims to spread hope and end stigma that surrounds mental health.

From her personal experience and fight with depression, she decided to start the foundation in  September 2019.

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”Kijana Jasiri Foundation is a non-profit organization which I run together with my dedicated team of leaders and volunteers from across the country. We offer mentorship sessions on mental health and strive to create a safe place where affected teens and youth can share their experiences, and get to learn from the others,” she explains.

“Mental health is a state of emotional, physical and social well-being. It is when someone is in a position to cope with stress,” she adds.

And how do you identify someone with a mental health issue?

“There are different symptoms that one can use to identify someone with mental illness. However, there are signs you should watch out for such as; feeling extremely sad, confused thinking with frequent loss of concentration, extreme mood swings, inability to cope with stress, drastic changes in eating habits among others,” she expounds.

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She confesses that juggling school with what she does is not a walk in the park but strives to balance them by dedicating her weekends for mental health advocacy.

‘I love what I do and I will never tire to reach out to people. As such, I guard it with uttermost jealousy,’ she asserts.

Her efforts have certainly not gone unnoticed and as a result, she has received several accolades for her work. “I was nominated and voted in as a Kotex She Can Award Honoree. It came as a surprise since I was competing with well known influencers and chances of me taking the trophy home were minimal,’ she says with pride.

Her journey towards self-esteem recovery has been slow but sure, and what keeps her confidence in check is the urge to break barriers and set pace for fellow women in the society.

She is also keen to reiterate that mental health is complex and should not be taken lightly.

‘I would recommend that someone seeks professional help before concluding that they have mental issues. The first step to recovery is speaking up about your struggles. Always remember that it is okay not to be okay and in case you would like to reach out for aid, contact Red Cross toll free number-1199 ,” she says as we wind up the interview.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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