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GETTING RID OF STUFF TO HELP THE NEEDY

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Stuff, stuff, everywhere… Who does not suffer from this modern disease of wanting to own more and more? We stuff our stores with food, our wardrobes with clothes and shoes, our homes with household items – anything we see, we buy because we like it and can afford it, not because we need it. We stuff ourselves with stuff and more stuff. It is a never-ending urge.

I am guilty as charged. I love good clothes, shoes, bags and electronic gadgets (my family and friends reading this must be wearing a knowing smile). I have a real weakness for shoes – it doesn’t matter how many pairs I own, if I see one I like I will still buy. I treat myself to good clothes, shoes and bags regularly and also update my electronic gadgets like phones and laptops often.

While I know and realise that I sometimes go over the top, I don’t make any apologies for treating myself if it makes me happy. I know I am not alone (confession time!). But what this shopping madness means is that one accumulates a lot of stuff that is hardly used. I have clothes in my wardrobe I have won only once over the last one year. It does not make sense to have your wardrobe full of clothes you perhaps will never wear.

It makes sense to get rid of them, and here lies the problem. Where do you take them? While giving is the best option, it does not always work. You may not have people who can fit in your clothes or are even be able to take care of them.

Just as I buy new clothes regularly, I also clean up my wardrobe once a year and put aside what I don’t need any more. I have an accumulation of the last two years; from the time

I stopped discarding my clothes the way I did before. Previously I gave to family members and charity. But I realised over time that perhaps my actions were

not as appreciated as I thought, or the donations never actually reached the intended causes. Some of my relatives, for example, did not take it kindly that I was giving them “old” clothes and not buying them new ones. I recall a time

I packed a whole suitcase of clothes and sent it with my driver to one of my close relatives and the backlash I got was hurting: “Does she think I am so poor? Why can’t she give me money instead?”

A long time ago, I also used to give my domestic workers clothes and other items I didn’t need until one nanny I had employed at the time used this as a foolproof way to steal my clothes then claim I had given them to her. And so I learnt my lesson. Then the other thing is, when you have clothes that should only be professionally dry-cleaned, giving them to a person who cannot afford this service is a waste, as the item will be ruined on the first wash.

So for some time now, I have been toiling with the idea of finding a practical way of dealing with stuff that I no longer need and that has accumulated in my house – not just in my wardrobes, but also my kitchen – utensils I don’t use anymore, my study – books that crowd my library, and gadgets that I no longer use. I have had this idea of a charity shop where I could drop such items, then they are sold and the proceeds go to help the needy.

This ensures those who buy these items at discounted prices need them, will value them and make use of them. They will also be assisting the needy. It is a win-win situation. To educate a poor girl at, for example, the Starehe Girls Centre for one year costs Ksh 85,000. If from such a venture five girls can be educated for one year, it would be a great and measurable contribution to society.

I looked around for such a facility but couldn’t get one and promised myself that one day I will start a social enterprise that would benefit the needy. I have worked on this idea for the last two years and God has answered my prayers because BizHub Thrift Shop will open its doors in Kiambu town this month.

This is a shop that will be selling anything that is donated in good condition and all the proceeds will go to charity, particularly those dealing with girls’ education. The shop opens with a full stock of stuff from my home.

I have appealed to my friends to give out what they no longer need, and to many, this comes as a blessing as they tell a similar story to mine – stuff accumulated and not knowing what to do with it.

I am hoping it will be a successful venture that will benefit the needy in this country. If you have stuff in good condition that you no longer use or need and don’t know what to do with it, now you know you can donate to BizHub Thrift Shop. You will not only be cleaning your spaces, but also helping the needy.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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