Connect with us

Editorial

Easy ways to reduce holiday stress

Published

on

The festive season is synonymous with fun but it also comes with a dizzying array of demands such as nagging friends, family, jam-packed social events and scores of other chores, which will definitely take a toll on your relationship. However, you and your partner can still minimise the stress that often accompany the holidays with these practical tips.

1. Plan and budget: With the current precarious economic times characterised by high unemployment rate, high interest rates and high cost of living, the holiday season can be a stressful time indeed. It is a reality that during the holiday season, many people experience heightened anxiety partly due to financial pressures as many spend on special gifts and treats over the holidays. And there is nothing wrong with this as long as you plan and budget to avoid overspending.  Often, people feel the pressure to buy gifts for loved ones over the holidays. The best gift is endless love but this should not limit you from purchasing a tangible gift for those close to your heart. Go for a meaningful, well-thought-out gift. The point is to wow your loved one with your thoughtfulness. By planning and budgeting in advance, you can get to treat your loved ones without putting pressure on your finances and feeling the heat, especially come January.

2. Manage expectations: During the holidays, it is best to try and keep your levels of expectations low, after all, the lower your expectation is, the lower your disappointment level is going to be.  The media can easily distort your mind on how the holidays should feel, what gifts to get and how people are going to react to your gift. But you need to manage the expectations by being true to yourself. For instance, it is unfair to equate the love your partner has for you with the size of the gift they may get you.

3. Ask for help: Juggling busy social events as well as entertaining out-of-town loved ones who may be visiting can also be strenuous not only financially, but also emotionally.  For instance, if friends and relatives descend on you for the holiday season, it could seriously strain you. Avoid scheduling too many parties and family obligations, and even for the few you have, ask people to help out. Learn to delegate tasks so that one person doesn’t bear the burden alone.

4. Create time for yourself and your partner: Make real effort to reconnect with your partner by limiting and being selective of the social and family events to attend. Opt for social events that give you opportunities to connect with your partner such as a dinner or gala night. Sometimes just touching each other – not sexually but lovingly – while you’re socialising with other people can help make a connection since subtle and frequent love signals often have more power than even grand gestures.

5. Cultivate the true spirit of the holiday season: Gifts, shimmering decorations, and numerous party invitations are an indication of the onset of the holiday season. But the true meaning of the season is more about opening our hearts to others rather than flashy presents. You and your partner can choose to spread some cheer over the season by sharing your time or resources with the less fortunate in your community, and taking time to count what you are grateful for throughout the year. This will create some magic between you and your partner just by sharing the holiday with someone you love.

It’s not always easy to stay calm amidst holiday chaos, but with the above tips, you can avoid conflict and keep your relationship on track.

Merry Christmas to you and yours!

Published December 2015

Continue Reading
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Cover Story

Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

Published

on

While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

Continue Reading

Cover Story

Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

Published

on

While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

Continue Reading

Cover Story

Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

Published

on

There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

Our FREE  e-paper March Issue is here!
As we celebrate our women this month, we bring you the best stories and the most inspiring features to get you going.
Click HERE to read!

Continue Reading

Trending

Copyright © 2017 Zox News Theme. Theme by MVP Themes, powered by WordPress.