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Correcting Your Child's Narcissistic Behavior

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Narcissism is a personality disorder that includes tendencies such as extreme love for one self, feeling of great self-importance and the constant urge to fulfil one’s needs at the expense of other people. A narcissistic child feels superior and demands to be treated better than others.

According to a study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS), factors such as early childhood experiences and psychological issues are some of the causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Early childhood experiences carry the flag-raising the question of whether parenting could be the biggest contribution to narcissistic personalities. Negligent parenting, overprotective, excessive pampering, constant negative criticism, broken families, abuse, narcissistic parents and irrational expectations are some of the parenting issues that would result in narcissistic behaviors in children.

Here are some of the ways of correcting narcissistic behavior in your child before its too late;

Learn to say NO; If your child throws a tantrum every time they need something, its time you start saying no. Trust me it will be a war at first but with time they will learn to ask for things calmly and know when their demands are unrealistic. Also, explain to them why you can not meet their demands so that they will learn to put other peoples feelings into account.
Appreciate their efforts; children will always strive to please their parents in every way possible. Take note of even the smallest milestone and let them know that you are proud. Failing to appreciate your kids will make them doubt and think less of themselves. Children who are unappreciated will always try to put others down just so that they can feel good about themselves. Word of caution though, avoid overpraising them.
Love them; As parents, our love for our kids is natural but how do we let them see that. Performing our parental duties is not enough to show that love. Go the extra mile and constantly remind them of your love and affection. Spend time with them just talking or sharing their hobbies. Love them unconditionally but do not over pamper them.
Teach them how to deal with failure and disappointments; Talk to your kids and prepare them to deal with frustrations that come with failure and disappointments. Being too overprotective will hurt your children in the end. Let them face the disappointments for them to grow stronger and understand that life is not all rosy.
Teach them the golden rule; Teach your kid, to do unto others what they would like to be done unto them. If your child refuses to share their toys with others, make sure they also refuse to share theirs with him/her. Sharing in the pain that others feel will teach them to empathize with others.
Let them take responsibility for their mistakes; Sometimes kids will do something wrong intentionally and act innocent. Do not be fooled by the cute face into overlooking the mistake. Instead, let them take responsibility. If they beat another child, make them apologize instead of apologizing on their behalf. Punish them when there is a need but ensure the punishment is reasonable.
Be the example; Our actions as parents are the best lesson for our kids. Being kind to others will serve to teach them the importance of kindness. Our own humility will also teach the child not to think of themselves too highly.
Therapy; If you have tried the above methods unsuccessfully, you can resolve to therapy. The therapist will observe the cause of the behavior and provide a solution for it. This may also include family therapy to deal with the issue of excessive love and narcisstic parents.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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