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Conquering The Fear of Failure

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The fear of failure is not innate, we can overcome it. New beginnings are scaring because of two particular reasons. One is the uncertainties that come with new beginnings and two is the fear of failure. More often than not we are scared and afraid of certain new things because of fear of failure.

Causes of Fear of failure

Natural reaction. As we have said, new beginnings come with the fear of failure thus it is beyond our control.

Past traumatic event.When your self-perception depends on how other people think.Genetic and biological issues. When a parent or other close relative has a phobia, the child will be much more likely to have the same anxiety.

Failure can escalate into a phobia called atychiphobia. The fear of failure can be mental and it can be characterized by certain things such as procrastination, being extremely worried, and physical.

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The fear of failure comes about when our subconscious mind isn’t in sync with our conscious mind. For instance, On one hand, you have your conscious mind which is ready to start a new business but on the other hand, your subconscious mind is vested by the fear of failure. When your conscious mind is ready to move forward and develop life, achieve and win things, your subconscious mind holds you back because of the fear of failure.

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          How to overcome the fear of failure.

Face your fears

Regardless of what your weaknesses are, you need to face them and work on them. When you face your fears, you start to improve how you deal with them. You might fear change in your life, and that is one of the things holding you back from success. If you are doing things the way you’ve always done them, the results are always going to be the same. If you want different and better results, you need to make changes to your approach. The more you face your fears and the more you do what you don’t want to do, the more comfortable you get with the things you fear.

Redefine what failure actually is

Developing a new perspective on the concept of failure is an important part of overcoming the fear of failure. Develop a new relationship with failure instead of viewing it as an absolute, life-destroying disaster. Change your perspective so that you see failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Think more positively

This is not as simple as it sounds; positive thinking entails altering your mindset, thought process, and outlook on the future. Fear of failure is often so strong because we focus on the negative outcomes and the obstacles to success. However, this is not the only outcome. Consider the positive outcomes, how you can overcome obstacles, and visualize a path to the goal. Let go of negative assumptions because they heighten the fear of failing.

Setting Goals

Setting a long-term goal can be both inspiring and motivating. Begin with whatever your first small goals are. When you succeed, even in the smallest of ways, your confidence will begin to return. With small victories and progress toward larger goals, you can boost your self-esteem and self-worth.

ALSO READ: 6 benefits of positive thinking

Have a plan B

Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Having a backup plan gives you more confidence to move ahead and take a calculated risk. It will reduce the negative emotions that you expect to feel if you fail to achieve your dream goal.

Stay Focused

Finally, when your mind is saturated with negative self-talk about what has already happened or what might or might not happen in the future, it’s difficult to focus on what you’re doing right now, in the present moment. Focusing on the task at hand at any given time allows you to stay on top of your current actions rather than ruminating on imagined consequences and perceived shortcomings.

I hope these tips and techniques help you overcome your fear of failure and motivate you to keep going. The only way to achieve your goals is to get out of your comfort zone, challenge yourself, and take risks. Life is frightening, but living the life you’ve always desired is worth the risk. You have the ability to do anything and succeed in ways you previously doubted.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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