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A mother’s experience raising a visually impaired son

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Elizabeth Macharia’s last-born son, Wilson Nderitu lost his sight at quiet an early age and she remembers it like it was yesterday. She had rushed her then one and a half-month-old son to the hospital in the middle of the night after he came under a Malaria attack. On arrival to the hospital, the attending nurse had told her that she had only two options; administer Chloroquine to the little boy or wait until the doctor came in the morning. From her training as a nurse, she knew that Chloroquine was not recommended for babies. However, she also knew that it may have been the only thing to save her child’s life. She had, thus, made the difficult decision to have her son get a Chloroquine injection.

One morning, about a month after the fateful night, Elizabeth realized that little Wilson could not see her and could not follow objects that she placed in his line of vision. She also realized that her baby was lively when she sat near a window but became gloomy when she went into a darker area. She had not witnessed such kind of behaviour with her two other children and she became puzzled. Friends who came visiting told her that the child could have hearing problems. However, no one was sure. It was only after many visits to the hospital that doctors realized that Wilson had a problem with his eyes. Wilson was also diagnosed with Nystagmus a condition which caused him to develop a squint when he tried to focus on things. They, therefore, prescribed glasses at seven months.

By this time, Wilson had had several other attacks of Malaria and each time Chloroquine was given. His mother noticed that every time the drug was administered, her child’s sight got worse and so they had to stop. She believes this was the reason Wilson was able to retain a little perception of light.

Though Elizabeth kept taking her son for check-ups, doctors could not give a conclusive diagnosis of what was ailing his eyesight. “At one time the doctors even suggested that he has a surgery because they thought he had cataracts.”

However, Elizabeth refused. It was only when Wilson was about six years that a real diagnosis was made. Wilson had Hydro Chloroquine Retinopathy. The three to four times he had taken Chloroquine caused damage to the Macula in his eyes leaving only a few cells intact.

She vividly recalls the moment the doctor told her that her child was “blind and it was irreversible.” The news hit her hard but she made a decision from that moment to give her child as normal a childhood as circumstances would allow.

The first step was taking him to a normal school, partly because she did not know of an integrated school at the time, and partly because she still believed that the boy was not totally blind especially because he could ride a bike and play with other children. It was not until she visited Kikuyu eye hospital and one of the clinicians referred her to St. Lucy’s primary school for the blind in Meru.

Raising Wilson was not without challenges which included stigma. For instance, she remembers being asked where she had left her blind child whenever she went to church without him. “My only consolation was that he was not totally blind.”

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Her advice to parents with children with special needs is to avoid showing their child that they have any issue. Instead, she encourages them to only assist such children where necessary and to leave them to explore and become their own person. For instance, her family ensured that Wilson was not treated any different.

“He liked getting to school early so I would get up and prepare him and he would go to school alone. I remember one day I was late waking up. When I woke up, his bag was not where it used to be and so was his uniform, I knew he had left for school and I felt so encouraged.”

She also ensured that Wilson maintained his self-esteem even when he was away from home. For instance, she recalls once when Wilson was in Class four and the teacher asked her if her son knew of his condition because he interacted with other children as if he could see. “When I told him that he was aware, he was surprised, I told him to let him go even to the field to play with other children as this raises self-esteem.”

Even with her best efforts, she was still worried of her child’s future.

“When I went back to school to study, I thought I was going to study for my son because I did not think he would get to where he is now.”

However, Wilson surpassed her expectations to bag his law degree from the University of Nairobi and Master’s degree in human rights from the University of Pretoria where he currently works as a human rights researcher while still pursuing his PhD.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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