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7 tips on making long-distance relationships work

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Long-distance romantic relationships are intimate relationships between partners who are geographically separated. These kind of relationships come with their own unique challenges, which can tear even the strongest couples apart. According to research, about 40 per cent of couples in long-distance relationships break up during the initial six-month period.  

If you are in a long-distance relationship, you may have found yourself questioning whether the relationship can work and more so whether it is worth it. Having doubts are a very normal part of the long-distance relationship experience. However, if you begin to find that your relationship is in jeopardy there are several ways to effectively make the long-distance experience easier and maintain a strong, healthy, and lasting relationship.

The following are tips on making a long-distance relationship work:

1.     Technology is your best friend

Long-distance relationships are easier today than ever before. There is no excuse to not maintain communication and continue to feel connected to one another. Photos, texts, phone calls, Facetime– all allow you to experience a sense of togetherness, something that was not an option before technology.

2.     Be committed to the relationship

Being committed to the relationship is a fundamental part of all relationships but even more so for those in long-distance relationships. It is important to know that you are fully committed to your partner and can see the relationship being long-term. This way, time will not be wasted, and heartbreak can be avoided.

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3.     Set an end date

Long-distance relationships are manageable for a while, and bring a unique experience to the table which allows both partners to strive individually whilst maintaining a relationship. Eventually, however, you will most likely want to live with your partner and therefore an end date will allow the couple to move forward and proceed to the next stage of their relationship.

4.     Do stuff together and plan ahead

Just because you are apart due to a long-distance relationship does not mean that you can’t have fun together. Plan a Facetime cooking session or plan to watch the same movie and discuss it afterwards. Furthermore, plan and delight in the details of what the two of you will do when you see each other next.

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5.     Be confident in your relationship

Be confident and trust in your relationship as well as your partner. Insecurity is one of the major factors for long-distance relationship break ups. Insecurity can result in excessive phone calls and texts for the wrong reasons. By checking up on your partner too often, you are overwhelming them and creating unnecessary tension.

6.     Set clear rules and boundaries

With all relationships, rules and boundaries should be set. The same applies to those in a long-distance relationship. One should not let their partner feel threatened or insecure by what is seen on social media or heard through mutual acquaintances. Both of you should also avoid putting themselves in situations that could potentially make the other feel insecure.

7.     Stick to a schedule

Timing is extremely important especially when it comes to long-distance relationships as your time together is precious. You need to always keep in mind when you are going to see one another, when and how often you will communicate with one another and stick to the plan. Although communication should not be forced in any relationship, planning for it should be encouraged. After all, not hearing from your loved one for over a week is just not ideal for anyone.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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