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13 reasons why women stay with men who cheat

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Often infidelity spells the end of a marriage, but not always. When a woman cheats on her husband, there is a higher likelihood of the marriage ending in divorce than when the man cheats. So just why do women stay with men who cheat? We have sampled reasons given by psychologists, marriage counsellors and studies:

Status

Sometimes women stick to their cheating husbands because they will lose their status otherwise. For instance, if your husband is the deputy president, you are the deputy president’s wife and you are accorded all the perks that come with it. If you divorce him, you lose the status as well and the only tag that remains is, the deputy president’s ex-wife.

Too scared to be lonely

Who wants to be lonely? Sometimes after spending too much time with someone, your lives get entwined. The thought of being lone can be too much.

ALSO READ: 10 signs he is a serial cheater 

The children

You will be amazed how many marriages are being held together by children. Thinking of the emotional trauma separation deals children, some women may decide to stay on in a marriage with a cheating husband.

Societal stigma

It is no secret that society still reserves some sort of disdain for women who have left their homes. This stigma and fear of losing the ‘married’ tag could cause some women to stay put despite their husbands’ adultery. Some sections of the society still hold on to the archaic notion that women should keep their families together, however dire the situation gets.

Time

Just the thought of all the time spent in the marriage, that will go to waste if she files for divorce might cause the woman to consider the option of staying.

Emotional investment

Physical ties can be broken, emotional ties are something else. That is why most women even end up making excuses for their cheating husbands, because emotional investments are hard to reclaim.

ALSO READ: Confessions – I wish he would cheat 

Resources and money

Most women fear striking out alone when their husbands cheats, especially if they were wholly or to some extent, financially dependent on their husbands.

Starting from scratch

Marriage, family and its routines create some sort of stability in the lives of both the man and woman. Leaving the cheating husband can be hard because it means disrupting the woman’s entire life and starting afresh. This is an undertaking most women may not be ready to try.

ALSO READ: Why cheating hurts so much 

Feeling responsible/ guilt

When a woman feels responsible for her husband’s cheating, she might decide to stay with him in order to try and make things right. This line of thought can be shaky, because whether to cheat or not is an individual’s choice, and cannot really be blamed on their partner.

Feeling inadequate

Cheating often leads to feelings of inadequacy. The wife might feel unworthy of a finding another partner in case they leave their husband.

Cheating is the only problem

If apart from the cheating, her husband treats her well and pays attention to her, a woman might be led into looking past her husband’s cheating.

Religion

Most religions frown upon divorces. Some women take that part in the marriage vows that say ’till death to us part’ too seriously and would rather die than leave their philandering husbands.

Norm

Some women believe it is only natural for men to cheat and for woman to stay faithful.

ALSO READ: Study – Being cheated on is not so bad after all

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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