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Things your friends do not need to know about your relationship

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When you are in a relationship, it is normal to always want to update your friends and family about what transpires in the relationship- both the good and the bad. However, there are instances where you will need to balance between disclosing and respecting your partner and their privacy.

Here are some details or instances where you should exercise caution and wisdom before disclosing:

Money issues

Try as much as possible to avoid sharing with your friends if your relationship is having financial problems. Money is a sensitive topic, especially when your partner is not doing so well. If your relationship is having problems when it comes to settling debts and meeting daily expenses then that is a problem for the both of you only. It is better to seek the services of an unrelated third party such as a financial advisor.

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Your partner’s insecurities

Your partner shares personal insecurities because they trust that you have their best interests at heart and would not use this information against them.  Insecurities may range from weight problems, past relationship experiences and low self-esteem. Therefore, try as much not to share such information, and if you think think their insecurities are interfering with the relationship, have them seek a counsellor.

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Your sex life specifics

No one needs to know how often you and your partner have sex or what exactly happens in the bedroom.  It is an intimate moment between the two of you. Discussing such intimate details may lead to comparison or unrealistic expectations yet sex is a unique experience for everyone.

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Your partner’s views on your friends

Do not go disclosing what your partner personal opinions about your friends and families especially if they disapprove of someone. This may create resentment towards your partner or ruin your friendship.

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Confidential information

There are things you and your partner discuss in confidence from time to time and it would be disrespectful if you disclose them to your friends and family. Sometimes it may not be a big deal but your partner would prefer to keep it private. Trust is the hardest thing to get back when it is broken.

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In-law issues

Sharing little information about your in-laws is not a bad thing. You just have to know where to draw the line and know when to bring up issues of infidelity, addictions, parenting styles etc.  Your partner’s family is your family by extension so accord them the necessary discretion about issues.                                     ‌

Past relationship failures

Your friends and family do not need to know what your partner did or did not do in previous relationships before you got together. Such details are not part of your current relationship and it will not look good when your partner discovers you shared them with other people instead of sharing your concerns with them.

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In a nutshell…

It really comes down to what you and your partner have agreed to share with your friends and families. However, when issues arise in your relationship,you can always find ways to seek advice from your family and friends without necessarily getting in to deep details of the particular issue. When sharing always ask yourself if you are breaking your partners trust in you.  It is best to consider the consequences and issues that may arise from over-sharing details of your relationships with friends and family.

If there are certain issues you feel must be addressed with someone, find a relationship counsellor who will help you unpack the issues in a safe space.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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