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TAKE A HOLIDAY: Rekindle the fire of passion

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It’s the holiday season once again and most people can hardly wait to get some days off to relax and have a good time with their loved ones. Maybe you plan to go on holiday with your family or friends. That’s no big deal. It’s probably happened a number of times before. Going on holiday together is a great way to strengthen your bond and create lasting memories. But is going on holiday with your spouse or significant other as easy as it seems? There are a few things to consider before you board that plane or bus together.

Choosing a destination

This decision is not as easy as it may appear. People have different views on holidays; for instance, you may consider lazing on a beach as a great way to spend a holiday while visiting historical sites may be his idea of a holiday. Compromise and communication are important in making this decision. What works for both of you? Discuss and plan the activities you would both like to take part in during your holiday and pick a location that accommodates your needs. You may even find you both enjoy similar activities, which could make this decision easier.

Working on a budget

Consider holiday destinations that are within your financial means. It is necessary to have a clear plan of how much it will cost you and what each one will contribute. Holidays are not cheap. They require a lot of budgeting and saving. They also need you to be realistic in your considerations on what to spend money on. How about deciding who pays for what? You may decide to split the costs where you both contribute a similar amount. It may also be that one of you is treating the other. In this case, expectations need to be discussed to avoid disappointments. For instance, one of you may be expecting luxuries such as spa treatments or shopping, which may not be in the budget.

Avoiding holiday arguments

It may be your first time to spend time together in close proximity, especially if you haven’t lived together. Even if you have lived together, chances are you don’t spend every minute of every day together due to different responsibilities and work schedules. Having some alone time may be great for you, as you’ll get to know each other better and get acquainted in ways you haven’t before. It will also enable you to be more at ease around each other.

Nonetheless, it’s not all fun and games as you spend a great deal of your holiday time together. It’s very easy to step on each other’s toes or get on each other’s nerves during this time. Holiday arguments tend to be more heated, as you’re both in a new environment. They may occur due to different reasons, the first being that more than anything, a holiday can be the one thing that highlights underlying problems in a relationship.

In addition, most people tend to have habits and behaviours that are potentially irritating to other people. These range from loud snoring to not flushing the toilet after use or leaving its seat up. Some of the things you discover about your partner during your holiday could ultimately alter your relationship. Again compromise and good communication are required here. Discuss your living arrangements before hand and try your best to be tolerant of each other.

Arguments also arise because of unrealistic expectations. You may want to hold hands and walk barefoot on the sandy shores of a beach at sunset just like that couple on the brochure, yet it may not be possible. Holidays are not perfect and anything can go wrong. One of you may get sick or luggage could get lost. It’s important to plan properly and be prepared for anything.

All in all, going on holiday for the first time with your partner or spouse can be an exciting experience with good planning and organisation. You’ll get to know a different side of each other and hopefully move your relationship to a new level. Whatever you do, ensure you have fun and make it memorable.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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