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Service: Cheerful, willful giving

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Maybe you’ve heard that Bible verse that is quoted many times when urging people to give to a particular cause, “It is better to give than to receive,” and wondered how exactly giving would be better than receiving.  This verse largely refers to the fulfilling nature of consistent service to humanity.

Service is that very noble virtue that compels us to not only give, but also give ourselves to others in a consistent, firm, and decisive way. It leads us to offer the best of ourselves and our talents for the benefit of others. Bryant S. Hickley, an early 20th century American author and religious leader, had interesting thoughts on this virtue. Hickley aptly said that service “is the dividing line which separates the two great groups of the world – those who help and those who hinder, those who lift and those who lean, those who contribute and those who only consume.”

Serving has a great impact on an individual. It helps diminish the inherent selfishness we have as human beings by instilling in us an attitude of generosity and detachment. This helps us grow together and coexist peacefully. It also gives one a sense of responsibility toward others and enables one to understand that they can have a big influence on others’ happiness. Service should also be adopted as an attitude and in this regard be practised habitually, making it much more than a superficial or fleeting gesture that only happens when there’s great need.

In the individualistic and materialistic world we live in that values comfort and convenience, service is an ever-diminishing virtue, reduced to obligatory hours and material gifts. Not many of us are taking advantage of the numerous opportunities to be of service to others, which makes us not realise how important our personal initiative and actions can be in others’ lives.

Service requires cheerful and willful giving. It should never be forced, but should be a deliberate action. Just like any other habit, the more it is practised; the more it becomes part of one’s life. It also requires an awareness of others’ needs and not being locked up in one’s own little world. Too many of us are busy ‘doing our own thing’ and not seeing the great need around us. So learn to help and to give of your time without being asked.

Participate actively in initiatives aimed at helping others. Also learn to give, not only to those you love or are known to you, but also to strangers, especially those who may never be able to give back. Remember that being of service to others does not have to be a grand gesture. An act of kindness, a smile, a friendly word, a gift or even an effort to include an outsider – these are all acts of service we can practice regularly.

 

Reflections

Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.

Muhammad Ali, retired American professional boxer

 

Service, which is rendered without joy, helps neither the servant nor the served. But all other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service, which is rendered in a spirit of joy.

Mahatma Gandhi (1869 –1948), preeminent leader of Indian nationalism in British-ruled India

 

At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done. We will be judged by “I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat, I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless, and you took me in.”

Mother Teresa (1910 – 1997), Indian Roman Catholic sister and founder of Missionaries of Charity

 

Everybody can be great… because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.

Martin Luther King Jr. (1929 – 1968) American clergyman, activist, humanitarian and leader in the African-American civil rights movement

 

In the end, the number of prayers we say may contribute to our happiness, but the number of prayers we answer may be of even greater importance.

Dieter F. Uchtdorf, German aviator, airline executive and religious leader

 

I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.

Albert Schweitzer (1875 –1965), French theologian, organist, philosopher, physician and medical missionary in Africa

 

Your thoughts

Apart from fulfilling your duties as is expected of you, serving others makes those you’ve attended to feel content that their needs have been addressed, especially if you’ve helped them get exactly what they came for in a cheerful and understanding manner, despite how difficult their problem was.

Elizabeth Njoki, 30, Customer Care Agent

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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