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Presentness…Living in the moment

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Living Value: Presentness

One of the most significant and profound lessons we can learn from little children is how to live in the moment. Have you ever watched a two or three-year old child at play? When he is playing with his toy car, he will drive it around, making car noises and probably feeling like the best driver there is. Nothing else in the world exists in that moment. He is not thinking about what happened yesterday and what he might be doing later in the day. If you take away that toy car from him, he will get upset and in that moment, nothing else in the world will matter but how upset he feels about you taking the toy car from him. Give it back and all is forgotten without a grudge. He will be back to his previous moment until something more interesting to him comes along that he will also give all his attention to.

A lot of life seems to pass us by because many of us are living either in the past or in the future. We go through our days with our minds preoccupied. How often does your mind drift off while doing a task, and you start thinking about something you did wrong or worrying about a future event? How often are you walking while talking on a cell phone, or thinking about personal problems, or the errands you have to run? How often do you eat without thinking about the food you’re eating?

There are numerous things we do in our day-to-day lives without thinking. We cannot get the most out of life unless we learn to set our minds on being present, that is, to be more conscious of life as it happens. Being present demands that we become aware of what’s going on within and around us without being burdened by inner concerns.

Increased focus on the present will enable you to enjoy life more. You might find you enjoy your work more and possibly even your food. Being present also helps us to reduce our stress levels as we reduce our focus on present and future worries, a source of stress for many. It may also help us become better at relationships as we become more committed at being present with our significant others, which may enable us to become better listeners and creates stronger bonds. Presentness has a big emphasis on doing one thing at a time and by focusing on the present task rather than trying to get a thousand things done at a go, you can complete a task faster and do a better job at it. In addition, being present keeps us from being swept along with the different currents that we encounter in life.

While there’s no single method that will get you better at being present, constant practice can enable you to achieve a certain level of awareness. Practice while getting ready in the morning, while working during the day, or while eating lunch. Strive to practice at every opportunity.

Nonetheless, being present is not something that is achieved instantly. It is a practice that takes time. It can also take place in some situations and not others. As you start noting how present you are in your day-today life, also note what keeps you from being present. It’s also important to have an intention of being present as a way of life and not just in some situations.

Reflections

We seem to be going through a period of nostalgia, and everyone seems to think yesterday was better than today. I don’t think it was, and I would advise you not to wait 10 years before admitting today was great. If you’re hung up on nostalgia, pretend today is yesterday and just go out and have one hell of a time.

Art Buchwald (1925-2007), American Humourist

With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882), American essayist, lecturer, and poet

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.

Dale Carnegie (1888 –1955), American writer and lecturer

Forever is composed of nows. Emily Dickinson (1830 – 1886), American poet

Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.

Marcus Aurelius Antoninus (121 AD – 180 AD,) Roman Emperor from 161 to 180

If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is.

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There is nothing as beautiful as living in the moment; giving your all and directing all your energy towards the activity or person before you. It makes life very fulfilling. It is the power of now. Let us quit living all our lives in the past or in the future, which makes for a miserable existence.

Pamela Moraa, 32, Advertising Executive.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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