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NELLY GATONYE – On her mentorship journey

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The number of young people in Kenya who are losing lives due to mental issues such as depression, stress and anxiety is increasing as the days go by. An even bigger number is lost to drugs, alcohol and substance abuse.

For Nelly Gatonye, she will not sit back and watch as the youth wallow in drugs and alcoholism. Through her organisation – Pearl of Hope – she walks with as many young people as possible so as transform their lives. Her desire to mentor others especially those behind her was born when she was schooling at the Kenya High School.

“When I got admitted to the school, I was assigned a ‘mother’ from the senior classes. Her role was to walk with me and this really helped me settle down in school,” she explains.
When she transitioned to form two, it was time for Nelly to become a ‘mother’ to someone else. It was only a matter of time before she found herself mentoring many other girls in the school.

“In form three, my cubical was always full of girls who opened up their lives to me in the hope of me walking with them through their issues and as I look back, I now realise that I was mentoring them even though I was not aware of it,” she shares.

After joining university, Nelly got exposed to a different reality. “I could see girls join the university and lose their identity all in the name of fitting in. The ladies would soon start smoking and engaging in drugs and this made my heart cry. It was evident to me then that I had to start a mentorship programme to guide young women,” she shares.

She thus reached out to a few ladies and guided them through campus life. This marked the birth of Pearl of Hope and she continued reaching out to young women in campus even after she completed her studies. In 2013, Nelly, who was then working as an accountant, registered the organisation so that she could have a more structured programme. She juggled her career and the mentorship programme.

Nelly finances the running of the organisation from her own pocket. This isn’t easy but the thought of impacting lives encourages her. She organises bi-monthly meetings with the mentees.

For Nelly, there is absolutely nothing that brings her utter joy than the transformation she sees her mentees go through. “Hearing my mentees make huge progress in their journeys gives me great joy and fulfillment because I can see who they were when we started and who they are now,” she shares.

The organisation, which started as a girls’ only mentorship programme, has immensely grown and now caters for men as well. They tackle a range of issues from reproductive health, to career, to handling hardships, among others. The mentorship programme has a module that the mentees go through together with Nelly. Once they are done, they are attached to a mentor who walks with them for a period of six months.

As recognition for her efforts, Nelly is a recipient of the Business Daily Top 40 Under 40 Women Award and has been listed among the most influential people by Aventure Media.

Beyond mentoring, she is also an author having published her first book I Got It All But Still Single. She reveals that her second book is currently underway and should be out in a couple of months.

While she wears many hats including being a Certified Public Accountant, she admits that mentorship gives her the most fulfillment. “For me all that counts is seeing one life changed out of the process,” she concludes.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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