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MENTORSHIP…Passing the baton

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One of the key differences between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the former want to see others succeed while the latter secretly hope others fail…

Is there any hope?” An old man asked while watching a group of teenagers. His face was full of despondency and whilst shaking his head, he queried: “Who will pass on the baton?” He then went into a tirade, lamenting at how Westernisation has snatched from Africans the virtue of mentoring the young.

He called to mind days of yore, when his elders sat him down and impacted to him the ways of the land and when his time came, he did not fail the generation that came immediately after him. Now he wonders when the rain started beating us.

He then stood up, looked around him in oblivion and walked away muttering to himself. But the message had hit home – now, more than ever, is the time to pass the baton through mentorship.

That mentorship helps to shape the future is in no doubt. In mentorship, a more knowledgeable or experienced individual seeks to guide a less knowledgeable or less experienced individual so that he/she might reach her full potential.

The age of the mentor does not matter for as long as the person has a certain area of expertise that may benefit the mentee (the person being mentored). Mentorship is best exemplified in the Bible where we encounter Moses grooming Joshua for leadership role.

Hence Joshua’s successful leadership could be attributed in part to Moses’ tutelage. We should thus draw from Moses’ grooming of Joshua the principles of succession planning.

One thing that is striking about our Indian brothers and sisters is their ability to mentor their young ones. It is common to find a middle-aged Indian man at his shop being assisted by his son or daughter and sure enough, when age catches up with him, you will find his son managing the shop with his young one. Undeniably, they have mastered the art of mentoring their young ones, and we ought to borrow a leaf from them.

A story is told of a very rich man who spent his heydays amassing wealth through diligence. Indeed, he was so wealthy that his family lacked nothing. When he passed on, his children automatically inherited their father’s wealth.

Unfortunately, the rich man had not taught his children the values of self-discipline and they squandered that which their father had worked his tail off. In the end, the only piece of land they had remained with was a small patch where the remains of their father had been interred. This sums up the need to mentor our children to grow up into responsible people.

One of the key differences between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the former want to see others succeed while the latter secretly hope others fail. Hence to be a mentor calls for a lot of selflessness. Admittedly, there is a lot of satisfaction that emanates from watching your mentee reach his/her full potential. And when you breathe your last, you die a happy person knowing that you have left the world in good hands.

Virtually all spheres in our life require mentorship, whether it is in marriage, career, studies, you name it. A good mentor thus commits to the cause, has a listening ear, is patient, is open minded and compassionate, is a role model and above all, invests in the mentee. Take up the clarion call and be a mentor to those who look up to you. And as they say, advice is cheap, but mentorship is worth its weight in gold. Go on; adopt a mentee.

 

in November 2015

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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