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MARY APUNGU EDUCATING MARGINALISED CHILDREN

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When Mary Wamaitha Apungu, 37, started teaching Sunday school children at St. Dominic Catholic Church in Mwiki, Kasarani, she didn’t know that this is what she would be doing for the rest of her life.

She was then fresh from high school with nothing much on her plate hence teaching Sunday school gave her a sense of fulfillment. Currently, Mary and her husband, Joseph Apungu, run Chariot Education Centre, a charity organisation equipping marginalised children with education.

The beginning…

According to Mary, her late sister, who was a Sunday school teacher in the church, stirred the passion to teach in her.

“My elder sister was a junior youth teacher in our church before she passed on in 1999. Accompanying her to these classes and watching her passionately teach the youth rubbed off on me. It was around the same season I got employed as an untrained teacher at a school in Mwiki. While there, I witnessed children who hailed from humble backgrounds being treated differently from their rich counterparts and it annoyed me. I felt a burden to start a school to help them,” she recalls.

Mary says that the burden was too heavy in her heart and when she couldn’t stomach it any longer, she started a school despite not having enough funds to run it.

Armed with love for the less fortunate and a passion to teach, she started off with two classes. To cut on costs, she did everything herself including teaching the two classes.

The school ran with the little cash she had saved. Few weeks after starting out, word about the school spread like bush fire prompting parents to enroll their children in the school.

Faced with this new development, Mary enrolled for a course in Early Childhood Development (ECD) so that she could serve the children effectively. She later did the P1 certificate.

“It reached a point where parents started bringing children living with disability to the centre. It was not easy handling the ever-burgeoning number of pupils. The school needed more teachers and classrooms and I didn’t have money to facilitate this. But I maximised on whatever was available as I waited for things to look up,” she says.

Influenced by her past…

While growing up, Mary helplessly watched as her parents struggled to cater for the family’s needs. She grew up knowing very well that life was not easy and it broke her heart whenever her father took out his frustrations on her mother.

To young Mary, marriage was a prison where women and children suffered and she vowed never to get married and if she did, she asked God for a gentle husband who wouldn’t raise his hands on her or her children.

With the picture of her father in mind, Mary turned down many men who approached her for courtship. But that was until she met Joseph Apungu. According to Mary, Joseph had a disability to his right hand – a consolation that he couldn’t attack her.

She opened the doors of her heart to him; this did not augur well with the community and those around her, but eventually, the courtship climaxed with marriage, which was celebrated in a church wedding at St. Dominic Catholic Church. While for her the disability was a blessing in disguise, the rest of the world saw it differently.

“When I got married to Joseph, he didn’t have a job although he held a Bachelor of Science degree from Kenyatta University. The disability was a stumbling block, as many would-be employers didn’t believe he would work efficiently. The stereotype that disability is inability was rife then. I prayed for him and even helped him apply for jobs because I saw the potential in him. We finally got a breakthrough when he secured a job at Barclays Bank,” says Mary.

It is this stereotype that saw them put more emphasis on children living with disability in their school that runs the 8-4-4 curriculum. “The experience made us to work on making the world understand that disability is not inability. We also wanted children living with disability to know that they could go beyond society’s expectations of them,” she says.

The centre currently has 420 pupils: 10 of them are living with disability while 92 are pure orphans. “We have been relying on Joseph’s salary and well wishers to run the school, but it is becoming difficult as the expenses are not commensurate with the funds we are getting,” says Mary.

A burden too heavy to bear…

In February last year (2015), Joseph was poisoned while dining in a restaurant and he was admitted at the Aga Khan University Hospital’s ICU in Nairobi. The hospital bill surpassed his insurance limit by a huge margin and they had to offset the surplus from their pockets.

“The hospital bill drained us financially and it adversely affected the school. But we believe God will provide for us,” says Mary.

The school’s rental bill has accumulated to Ksh400,000 and they fear the landlord may throw them out of the premises if they fail to settle it by January 2017.

“The landlord thinks that all pupils in the school are able to pay the school fees. He doesn’t understand it is a charity organisation so I really have a hard time trying to explain why I have failed to remit the rent on time,” she explains.

She further takes me round the school compound where she tells me for the last one year the institution has been buying water as the Nairobi County Council disconnected their water due to unpaid bills

“We would be very happy if we can get a donor to help us clear the debt we have as well as support the ministry. We currently rely on volunteer teachers who help pupils with class work and ensure effective basic and quality education is achieved, as we cannot afford to have full-time teachers. All in all, the teachers don’t stay for long since they leave once they get greener pastures. That said; we have to train every new teacher on how to handle pupils, including those with disability.

We admit all kinds of children because we want those who are able to appreciate those who are living with disability. At the same time we don’t want those with disability to be treated as if they are special as this affects their self-esteem. Children come from God and He knows their purpose; ours is to help them towards it,” she explains.

She says that in future, she would like to have permanent premises where they can accommodate more children. “Our classes are too crowded and we would like to have a playground where they can play in. We will have to make do with whatever we have for now as we are financially limited,” she says.

In addition to bigger classrooms, Mary’s vision for the school includes the establishment of a rescue centre to accommodate orphans who are wallowing in poverty, some in the hands of guardians who mistreat them or are too poor to provide for them. She tells of incidents where girls refuse to go home during holidays for fear of their guardians mistreating them.

“In such cases, we rent a house for them and have a social worker live with them,” she says.

Children living with disability have a soft spot in Mary’s heart and her aim is to see disabled children in Kasarani live in a conducive environment where they get love and quality education, and their basic needs are taken care of.

“These children have the potential of achieving their goals in life. I met my husband when he was at the lowest point of his life thanks to disconcerting voices. It took hard work to change his mindset about life. I look at Joseph now and the strides he has made and his life is enough testament that we are all destined for greatness if we are given the right opportunities. The children at the centre lack many opportunities and all I can give for now is education and a hope for a better future,” she concludes wistfully. kahara@parents.co.ke

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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