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Life lessons from a friend I’m yet to meet

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Well, each one of us is in the process of making this year better than the last. I am here to encourage you to do it. You see, “The first purpose of life is to work your way to your best self. The second is to leave the world better than you found it.” This is not my quote. It’s from a friend called Robin Sharma. I am yet to meet Robin, but I refer to him as a friend because he has enriched me with his books and motivational videos from the day I chanced on him in the Internet.

Now that you know Robin too (I know some of you are familiar with him already), I want to bless your year with five more quotes from him that I believe are going to shape your life. They are simple, but powerful. If you work on them, I believe your life, and that of people and the environment around you will never be the same again – for the better. Here we go!

“Today – this day – could be the first day of a whole new life. It all depends on what you do with your power to choose.” Isn’t that powerful? You see, everything boils down to choice. What you choose to do or not to do; what time you choose to rise in the morning, the people you choose to interact with – do they add value or are they just energy sappers? What material do you fill your mind with in your free time – do you spend the whole evening watching useless soaps on TV, watching porn, reading pathetic blogs or Facebooking? Or do you exercise, read good books, watch motivational or self-development videos, talk to your children? Robin is simply saying that your choices determine who you become. The chap who said choices have consequences was spot on.

“Make what will be important to you on your last day what’s important to you on this day.” Put another way, live today as if it were your last day on earth. Imagine for a moment that today is your last day on earth that you will never read Men Only again, you will never do whatever you are doing today. In a few days you will not only be dead, but also buried six feet under. Now, how do you spend the rest of the day? Would you call your loved ones to let them know that you care? Would you still go straight to the bar after work or would you first go to your wife and children,

play with the kids, talk to the bigger ones and take dinner together as family… then maybe excuse yourself to go see a few friends? What would your priorities be? Now, simply do every day what you would do on your last day. One day you will find that it is actually your last day.

Close all your escape routes, burn all your plan Bs and get busy doing that dream that only you were built to do”. Yes! You were born for a purpose…

“Life’s like working out. There’s no pain in the comfort zone. But is that really where you want to live?” So, no pain no gain. Those difficult things you have been avoiding are the things between your mediocre self and world-class self. Do them. Don’t procrastinate. Start NOW.

“If you’re the smartest person you know, it’s time to know new people.” Fact is you are not the smartest person on earth, but may be everyone around you is so intellectually lazy that you beat them hands down with your intelligence. But who wouldn’t want to be the person? The problem with being the smartest among your friends is that you stop learning. They may learn from you and boost your ego, but as the smartest, you learn nothing from your circle. And men begin to die the moment they stop learning. Evaluate your relationships. If you haven’t learnt anything challenging from them yet, don’t be fooled that you will this year. Look for people who challenge you.

Finally we come to this: “Close all your escape routes, burn all your Plan Bs and get busy doing that dream that only you were built to do”. Yes! You were born for a purpose. Find it and pursue it. Look beyond your immediate family. Where can you contribute? What can you do to help other people live fully? What is your purpose for living? Certainly, it must be something bigger than your current job, your salary or your two beautiful kids. Could be some child who needs school fees, some kids who need mentoring or women or men who need hope and the reawakening of their passion for life. Just forget the excuses. Do it.

That’s all. I will leave you with a bonus quote from another thinker called George Eliot. He says: “It is never too late to become what you might have been.” 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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