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JOYCE WANJIKU : Giving dignity to the elderly

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Leading from the front, Joyce Wanjiku is engaging the local community in her Nyeri hometown to be sensitive to the plight of the elderly. Her actions and messages focus on supporting the elderly by giving them food, love and acceptance, as well as decent shelter. She is calling on everyone to follow her example and help improve the quality of life of the elderly. Hers is a calling as she narrated to MWAURA MUIGANA.

 When Joyce Wanjiku sought greener pastures in South Africa after completing her secondary school education at Othaya Girls High School in Nyeri County in 1998, she had no idea the turn around her life would take. For seventeen years, she lived in the high-end suburbs of Johannesburg. She worked for a number of companies alongside pursuing her university studies and not only graduated with a Bachelors of Commerce degree, but also specialized in project management.

Her breakthrough came when she undertook project management for one of the biggest independent power production projects in South Africa while working with PB Power. So good was the job that it paid a six-figure salary. Later on, she moved to work for different companies as a project manager, some of which posted her outside South Africa to manage their overseas projects. Joyce worked in Sweden, Finland and Netherlands, among other countries. The money flowed in and she became a high flier, loving life, going for sabbatical leave in the USA and traveling to New Zealand, Australia and other countries to watch her favourite game – rugby.

She regularly sent money to her parents in addition to checking up on them often. Whenever she came home for a visit, she would shower her parents with household shopping and cash before dashing back to her demanding job in South Africa. Joyce thought she was doing the best for her parents but her mum wished she would stay with them longer. “It was obvious she longed for my love and company more than my money,” says Joyce.

It was while she worked as a project manager for Lexmark International consulting for Standard Bank in South Africa, that her mum was diagnosed with cancer of the colon at its very late stages. At the time Joyce was on vacation in the US. When she learnt about her mother’s illness, she was guilt-ridden on realising how detached she had been to her. She wished she could have spent more time with her.

She returned home to find her mother very sick. “I felt it was my responsibility to care for my mother. I had two choices – to quit my job and return home or employ a qualified caregiver. I did neither. Instead I argued that since mum had two house helps and a husband to take care of her, she would be just fine. I returned to South Africa and regrettably mum died on June 3, 2010 when I was away,” explains Joyce who lives with the regret that she was not there for her mum when she needed her most.

 A burden for the aged…

“I came home for mum’s burial and stayed a little longer, feeling disturbed at how we treat our ailing parents. It was then that I realised there is more to life than money. I should have done more for my late mother. It dawned on me that there was a serious problem in the society, particularly for people who are too busy and think that money and phone calls are what our elderly parents and grandparents need. That’s not it. They need our presence and constant love and care,” Joyce says.

In August 2011, Joyce quit her job in South Africa and returned to Kenya with one desire – to help the elderly. Her dad, siblings and friends, save for a Mr. Wachira and Rev. Ng’ang’a of Parklands Baptist Church, Nairobi, thought she was out of her mind.

“I registered Purity Elderly Foundation (PEF) in November 2011, a foundation whose objective is to help the elderly, in memory of my late mother, Purity. Soon, I learnt that the vulnerable elderly were in more deplorable conditions than I had envisaged and couldn’t help them on my own. So I resolved to involve the media, the community, the administration and anybody willing to lend a hand,” Joyce explains the genesis of her foundation.

A party for the aged…

On New Year’s ever in December 2011, Joyce launched the foundation with a party for the elderly in her home area. She used the party as a forum to establish the number of elderly people in the area, as well as give them an opportunity to interact and inspire each other.

She bought food items and also approached shopkeepers, greengrocers, butchers and other traders from Mweiga town to chip in with food donations. She went on a similar begging mission to Nyeri town, walking into bars and other establishments asking patrons to spare some money for her noble course. Most responded positively and she was encouraged. She stored the foodstuffs in her dad’s vacant shop in Mweiga town, which she later converted into offices for Purity Elderly Care Foundation.

She used the community health workers to mobilise the elderly from Kyeni West district. The former Nyeri County Council chairman, Wachira Ken, supported this noble gesture by offering free transport to the elderly to enable them attend the party, which was held outside her dad’s shop. Over 100 elderly people turned up. They interacted, sang, danced and enjoyed themselves and each had a food gift to take home.

So successful was the party that it has now become an annual event. The elderly collect donations at PEF while volunteers and social workers ferry donations to those too weak to collect them. Joyce has ventured deep into the villages visiting the elderly and assisting them.

Providing shelter and involving others…

She has mobilised the community to get involved in the project and make it sustainable. So, how does she do it? On identifying a needy case, Joyce solicits for donations of food, beddings, clothing and other items from the local community. She has become so popular in the community that the locals now refer to her as “Wanjiku the beggar” or “Wanjiku wa andu akuru” (darling of the elderly).

The assistance given to the aged has gone a notch higher from just visiting and sharing with them, to providing shelter. This is done with the community’s involvement. The first beneficiary was Njeri, a grandmother, living alone in her rat-infested house together with her goats. What she called home was a small ramshackle with gaping holes on the wall and a roof that leaked during the rainy season. Joyce got donations of  iron sheets and other construction materials from the business community in Nyeri town and then invited university and college students from Nyeri County and matatu touts in Mweiga to provide labour.

The then local district commissioner and Member of Parliament also joined in as Njeri’s house was refurbished with new walls and a roof and cleaned. A separate shed for her goats was also constructed. Today, Cucu Njeri lives comfortably and receives food regularly from PEF. She has resumed her previous craft of weaving baskets and is now making some money to support herself.

In June 2012 Joyce identified another neglected old woman living in deplorable conditions in the village and purposed to put up a shelter for her at Solio in Mweiga where she owned some family land.  She got donations of construction materials from the Nyeri business community and invited the Kyeni East district commissioner, chiefs, the district officer and administration policemen to provide labour for the construction of the house.

The local administration often provides Joyce with transport to carry food donations to PEF’s storage in Mweiga town, while the ministry of public health provides technical advice when constructing toilets. At Joyce’s request, Boda Boda operators have been sensitised to offer to deliver firewood and food free of charge or for a small fee to needy elderly who can’t fetch it for themselves.

Some taxi operators also help her out by taking the elderly to hospital free of charge when they fall sick. PEF also engages community health workers and locals to cook for the elderly who are either too frail or sickly to cook for themselves.  Sixty-two elderly people have benefitted from construction or refurbishment of their dilapidated houses.

July Blankets Day…

On July 7, 2012, PEF launched the July Blankets Day to support the aged with blankets and beddings to forestall the June-July cold season.  After visiting many elderly people, Joyce realised their needs are much more than blankets. Thus, the July Blankets Day has been expounded to mobilise people to donate other resources such as firewood, water jerry cans, clothes, socks and blankets, as well as engage the community in repairing their homes and also ensure the fires in their homes are kept burning so they can stay warm.

Currently, PEF is running a campaign to collect blankets, firewood from saw millers and individuals, plastic sheets to cover leaking roofs and transport to take donated items to the storage in Mweiga town.

Unforgettable beneficiaries 

 A dignified send-off for Theresa…

“During one of my visits, I came across an elderly woman, Theresa, who had been abandoned by the community and lived alone in her room in Kwa Bengi slums. She had wounds and bedsores and helping herself to the toilet was a task. I engaged a local clinical officer to examine and treat her before identifying two ladies who lived nearby to care for her at a small fee.

A local supermarket donated a mattress and three blankets and a Good Samaritan a bed and with some linen from my wardrobe, I was able to make a comfortable and warm bed for Theresa. Although the clinical officer said it was too late and Theresa didn’t have much time to live, I wanted her to die with some dignity. And for the next seventeen days that she lived, she had a smile on her face.

Some community and church members were embarrassed and angry with me for exposing them for neglecting the elderly in their midst when Theresa’s case became public. Theresa allegedly didn’t have a family to bury her. I borrowed a coffin and got a burial space at the public cemetery, then mobilised the community to raise money to transport her body from the mortuary,” Joyce explains. On the day of the burial, four relatives from Kirinyaga turned up after Joyce highlighted Theresa’s plight in the media. The relatives said they lost contact with the deceased a long time ago.

Abandoned Mbarire… 

Another case was that of sickly Mbarire who was neglected and abandoned in his house in Chaka village in Kiganjo, Nyeri. Joyce visited him in September 2012 and witnessed his maggot-infested body. “I decided to take him to hospital and involved the local chief for security reasons. The chief reluctantly summoned Mbarire’s brother who gave me transport to Nyeri Provincial General Hospital. Sadly, Mbarire died a day after hospitalization,” recalls Joyce.

Whenever Joyce comes across an elderly patient in need of medical attention and his family can’t get transport, she asks for donations from friends and negotiates with the hospital or medical institution for bill waivers. It was easier before taking the sick to hospital using her car but it recently had an accident and was written off.

“What I do is not easy but God has given me grace and unprecedented favour to do it,” Joyce says adding that she hopes PEF activities will spread to other counties in the country in the future so that many elderly people can benefit.

Published on May 2013

 

 

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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