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Humour: Good temperament

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When was the last time you had a good hearty laugh? Not a brief chuckle or simple “Ha ha” but the kind of laugh that has your sides hurting and tears streaming down your face. With all the pain, strife and turmoil in our world, it’s easy to miss out on the little joys of life. Yet humour plays a big part in our lives than we may know.

Humour simply refers to the ability to perceive the comic or absurd quality of life; the faculty of expressing the amusing or comical; good temperament. It is only through humour that we see and appreciate some of the beautiful things in life. Humour is also an essential instrument in the key to finding happiness. Consider the people you enjoy being around most, and the people that make you happiest. Think about some of your favourite memories with them. In many instances, these treasured memories probably involve humour and laughter. Humour is also one of the primary things that enables us to overcome the difficulties of life.

Humour is infectious. Shared humour binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. Among the important factors that strengthen our relationships by triggering positive feelings and fostering emotional connection are humour and playful communication. Laughing with one another creates a positive bond, which acts as a strong safeguard against stress, disagreements, and disappointment.

You’ve also probably heard the old adage that says laughter is the best medicine. Laughter triggers healthy physical changes in the body. Humour and laughter reinforce your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. The best thing about all these benefits is that laughter as a medicine is fun, free, and easy to use.

Do you take yourself too seriously? It’s important that you learn how to laugh at yourself and to forgive and admit your shortcomings. This enables you to let go of negative emotions like bitterness, resentment and anger, and helps you to endure things more easily. Humour allows us to view things in a new light. We can then see the foolishness of our fixations, our hypocrisies and inconsistencies, and our tendency to see ourselves as the center of the universe.

 It’s been debated whether or not humour can count as a virtue. Some have argued that humour can make us better people by helping us let go of our inflated feelings of self-importance that can be brought on by too much seriousness. Humour helps us to become better people by keeping us humble, allowing us to smile at our limitations, and avoiding despair. This in turn allows us to relax our guarded egos, humbling us without harming us.

If we learn to laugh often and see the humour in everyday things, then life becomes a lot easier and generally a lot happier. Humour helps us to appreciate all of the good that is around us. Learn to see things through humour and discover that life isn’t too bad after all.

Reflections

If we couldn’t laugh, we would all go insane.

Robert Frost (1874 – 1963), American poet

A good laugh is like manure to a farmer – it doesn’t do any good until you spread it around.

Michael Pritchard, American actor and comedian

By starving emotions we become humorless, rigid and stereotyped; by repressing them we become literal, reformatory and holier-than-thou; encouraged, they perfume life; discouraged, they poison it.

Joseph Collins (1866-1950), American neurologist

 Humor is always based on a modicum of truth. Have you ever heard a joke about a father-in-law?

Dick Clark (1929 –2012), American radio and television personality

A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.

Henry Ward Beecher (1813 –1887), American Congregationalist clergyman, social reformer, and speaker

You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humor in anything, even poverty, you can survive it.

Bill Cosby, American comedian, actor, author, and educator

A day without laughter is a day wasted.

Charlie Chaplin (1889 – 25 December 1977), English actor, comedian, and filmmaker

Your thoughts…

As I grew up, I came to understand how our human perception of life events determines our happiness. I see humour as an important component of coping with life’s challenges. I see humour in all manner of things. For example, I wonder why the authors of the bible depict Jesus Christ as a man who never had a funny moment.

Mary Kittakah, 31, Psychotherapist

Published in June 2014

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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