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How do I transition back to employment?

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Q. Ten years ago, I put on hold a high-flying, successful career to become a stay-at-home mom. It is a decision I have never regretted and I am glad to have had the time with my children. However, I am seriously contemplating getting back into the workforce considering my children are now independent. The thing is, I am now in my forties and I’m wondering if I’m kidding myself here. Any words of advice you can offer to help me with the transition?
Karen

A. People, and women in particular, sometimes feel the need to give up either their career or family over the other, and their life from then henceforth follows the chosen path, which is not cast in stone.

Circumstances may force one to cut short their employment hiatus or the issues as to why they took the break in the first place have been addressed, as with your case. So your desire to jump back into employment is very valid and very possible. Here’s how you can prepare for the transition.

Assess your reasons: What exactly is your motivation for jumping back into the work force? Is it money? Is it some sense of personal gratification or actualisation? Is it to keep busy? Is it to learn something new?

These kinds of questions will help determine the kind of job you should seek, for example your old job or a new adventure, and to which extent you want to immerse yourself into it. Your motivation will also determine the extent to which you are willing to compromise on the offers given.

Prepare… a lot! Potential employees will always ask why you took a hiatus and why you came back and if you are relevant enough for their business. You must think through your answers carefully because you don’t want to create the impression that you were too good for the market or you don’t care about the changing trends in the market force.

You must convince your potential employer that you are still relevant despite being out for a decade.

Don’t undervalue yourself: Being out of the job market for a long spell can make one feel inadequate. That, however, does not diminish your skills. It just means you are rusty. So leverage on the achievements, accolades and strives you were able to make while working and ensure they are still relevant to the market.

Take online assessment tests, which can help determine what you need to upgrade and what you can refine some more.

It is interesting that you have mentioned the age aspect. Don’t sell yourself short. Women tend to undermine themselves based on the labels society uses against them such as, you guessed it, age. Don’t use it as an excuse to sabotage yourself. You might be surprised as to what employers are looking for.

Research: Find out the latest trends in the market and if you are in tandem with them. As you wait to hear back from potential employers, take refresher courses. If you had a particularly cordial relationship with your former employer, reach out and express your sentiments to get back in.

They can be a good source of information on what your industry requires and who knows, if you were that good especially in a specialist skill, they may just be open to having you back.

Network: Do you have friends in the industry you want to pursue? Engage them on what is required in terms of skills set. Join industry groups such as professional bodies or online groups on social media.

They will provide clues on industry best practices and opportunities. As ironic or even strange as it sounds, consider internship. Offer your services for free, volunteer or go for industry-related activities. This will give you experiential insight and will still look good on your CV.

 

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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