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Dear Diary,

 

A white picket fence, children playing in the background, a dog chasing after them as I cook and clean waiting for my man to come home, has never been a fantasy of mine. This so-called barbie dreamhouse, has never been appealing to me. Never. I have always pictured a gorgeous mansion with glass walls and neutral colors, high ceilings, beautiful floors and an immaculate rag at the centre of my living room. That I would come home at seven pm, take off my stilettos, put down my Birkin bag, let my hair down and head to the kitchen for a glass of wine. But as beautiful as this life seems, it is a sad one and of all the things that I desire from the world, sadness, isn’t a part of them.

One of the things that motherhood is showing me, is that I am never going to be alone. I have my son and he and I, we’re going to be together for a long time. During the highs and the lows, he is my anchor. He keeps me rooted to earth. They say home is where the heart is and that is how I know that the point in my compass, will always point home.

 

But…I yearn for more. I still want more from life even when my compass calls me home and every time, I dare to dream, I feel selfish. Can I have any of my dreams and still raise my son well? Can I have him and my dreams? Or is my future an endless loop of putting my son first? I prioritize his needs and I always will, but is there room to think of me? You see, parenting for any woman, whether she is single or not, is tricky. You find yourself in uncharted waters and you have to be strong all the time because anything less is a sign of weakness that is directly proportional to being a bad mother. Dozens of women before me, have put their dreams aside to raise their children, sacrifice everything to see their children become everything they never got to be. My mother is no different as I am sure many of yours has a similar story.

It is different here, because I am at a conundrum. I want it all. I want the money and the means to get it. I want the power and the ability to purchase what I want including that mansion with glass walls. But I also want to put my son first and to give him everything that he could possibly want. Everything, that my mother gave me and more. I am at the proverbial crossroad. Do I dare to dream at the cost of my son or do I close my eyes, revel in the moment then open my eyes and forget the dream? Do I relinquish my desires for a better future, and dare I say a greater future as a childish dream, no longer worthwhile to follow or do I take the risk and let what happens be?

Maya Angelou was sexually molested by her mother’s boyfriend when she was sixteen, and she had a son a year later. I shudder just thinking about what was going on in her thoughts. My experience came dangerously close to breaking me, and I am confident that if I had gone through this, I would not have survived. But she bucked the obstacles and did what she needed to do, which sadly or thankfully included prostitution.

She donned many hats; fry cook, singer, and waitress, in an attempt to make the best of what was an impossible situation.
The world today, knows Maya Angelou as a renowned writer and poet. At the very end, she was the epitome of this conundrum. A successful career woman, a feminist and a mother. She replaced those titles she had earlier with much better ones. Were she alive today, I would love an audience with her. A chance to ask her how she overturned her fortunes. How she dared to go after her wildest dreams and still be a mother because at this point, her answers will be very insightful. The longer I wait, the more time goes by and unfortunately, silence too is an answer.

That home with a white picket fence, is very attractive right now because at least, it is someone’s dream. I can dare to dream but the question really is, should I?

Love,

Mitchelle.

 

 

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7 Things to do to Make Your Kids Smarter

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Raising a child who is curious, resilient, and intellectually sharp is less about brain-training apps and more about the environment you build at home. Developmental experts suggest that cognitive growth is rooted in emotional security and high-quality engagement.

Here are seven evidence-based strategies to help your child reach their full intellectual potential.

Prioritise interactive reading

It isn’t just about reading to your child; it’s about reading with them. This is known as dialogic reading. Ask open-ended questions like why they think a character did something, or the thought process

The Commission on Reading notes that reading is the single most important activity for building the knowledge required for eventual success in reading.

By turning a story into a conversation, you engage the brain’s verbal and analytical centres simultaneously.

Encourage deep play

Unstructured free play is often mistaken for idle time, but it is actually a workout for the prefrontal cortex.

According to Dr. Sergio Pellis, a researcher at the University of Lethbridge, “The experience of play changes the connections of the neurons at the front end of the brain.”

These changes help develop the executive functions, like emotional regulation and problem-solving, that are far more predictive of academic success than early memorisation.

Focus on growth mindset praise

How you praise your child changes how they think. Stanford psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck famously pioneered the concept of the growth mindset. Instead of calling a child smart (which can make them afraid of failure), praise their effort and process.

Say, “I can see how hard you worked on that puzzle.”

Children who believe intelligence can be developed through hard work are more likely to tackle difficult challenges.

Foster early musical training

Learning an instrument does more than create a hobby; it creates a more connected brain.

Dr. Sylvain Moreno of the Rotman Research Institute found that just 20 days of music-based cognitive training produced significant improvements in children’s verbal intelligence and executive function.

Music requires the brain to process pitch, timing, and emotional expression all at once, which strengthens the bridge between the two hemispheres.

Sleep as a cognitive tool

A tired brain cannot learn. Research has shown that a loss of just one hour of sleep can turn the cognitive performance of a sixth-grader into that of a fourth-grader.

“A slightly sleepy sixth-grader will perform like a fourth-grader,” says Dr. Avi Sadeh of Tel Aviv University.

Sleep is the time when the brain consolidates memories and cleans itself of metabolic waste, making it ready for a new day of learning.

Introduce second language exposure

The bilingual advantage is a well-documented phenomenon. Children exposed to a second language early on develop a better switching mechanism in the brain. This allows them to focus more intensely on relevant information while filtering out distractions.

Teach physical exercise as brain fuel

Physical activity isn’t just for the body; it’s for the mind. Exercise increases blood flow to the brain and triggers the release of BDNF (Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor), a protein for brain cells.

Dr. John Ratey, a Harvard psychiatrist, explains that exercise “provides the best nutrients to stimulate the brain to grow and learn.”

When you prioritise sleep, encourage messy play, and praise the effort rather than the result, you are way ahead of the curve. You are raising a lifelong learner, a winner.

Intelligence is a living, breathing capacity that expands when nurtured with curiosity and care. Start with one of these steps today, and watch how your child’s world opens up.

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How to Grow a Functional Kitchen Herb Garden on a Small Windowsill

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For years, I stared at the cramped ledge above my sink and saw nothing but a spot for a drying rack and a stray bottle of dish soap.

I hated grocery trips, overpaying for nyanyas and vitunguus that I have never bothered to know the standard price of. One afternoon, while making instant noodles, I realised that my kitchen was lacking something; it needed a life. I decided to make that windowsill a beautiful, vibrant, aromatic escape.

If you’ve ever felt like your culinary dreams were limited by your floor plan, I’m here to show you exactly how I turned my small space into a functional herb garden.

Assess your windowsill

Before buying a single seed, evaluate your spot:

  • Sunlight: Most culinary herbs crave sunlight. At least four to six hours of direct sun per day. If your light is limited, consider a grow light.

  • Space: Measure the length and width of your windowsill. This will dictate how many pots you can fit and their size.

  • Temperature: Ensure the windowsill isn’t drafty or directly above a heat vent, which can stress plants.

Choose your herbs wisely

For a small windowsill, focus on herbs that thrive in pots and are frequently used in your cooking. Start with three to five varieties that fit your light conditions and culinary habits.

  • High-sun herbs:

    • Basil: Loves warmth and sun. Pinch off flowers to encourage leaf growth.

    • Rosemary: Aromatic and woody. Prefers drier soil once established.

    • Thyme: Drought-tolerant and low-growing.

    • Oregano: Sprawling, but can be pruned to stay compact.

  • Moderate-sun herbs:

    • Mint: Very vigorous! Grow in its own pot to prevent it from taking over.

    • Chives: Onion-like flavour, easy to grow.

    • Parsley: Prefers consistent moisture.

Buy small starter plants from a nursery rather than seeds for quicker gratification and a higher success rate, especially for beginners.

Select the right pots and soil

  • Pots:

    • Drainage is key: Each pot must have drainage holes to prevent root rot. If your decorative pots don’t, use them as cachepots (a larger, decorative pot that holds a smaller, functional pot with drainage).

    • Size: Aim for pots at least six inches in diameter for most herbs. Larger pots mean less frequent watering. Terracotta pots look classic and allow soil to breathe, but plastic retains moisture better.

    • Window boxes/trays: If your windowsill is long enough, a shallow window box can hold multiple herbs, but ensure it still has drainage holes and a tray underneath.

  • Soil: Use a good quality, well-draining potting mix. Do not use garden soil, as it compacts too easily in pots and can harbour pests.

Planting your herbs

  • Gently remove your herb plant from its nursery pot.

  • Loosen any circling roots at the bottom.

  • Place a small amount of potting mix in the bottom of your new pot, centre the plant, and fill with soil, leaving about an inch of space from the rim.

  • Water thoroughly until water drains from the bottom.

Essential care for a thriving garden

  • Watering: This is what most people mess up.

    • Feel the soil: Stick your finger about an inch deep into the soil. If it feels dry, it’s time to water.

    • Water thoroughly: Water until you see it draining from the bottom.

    • Empty saucers: Don’t let pots sit in standing water. Empty saucers after 15-30 minutes to prevent root rot.

  • Harvesting: The more you snip, the bushier your herbs will become!

    • Pinch back: Regularly pinch off the top sets of leaves to encourage side growth rather than vertical growth.

    • Don’t over-harvest: Never remove more than about one-third of the plant at once.

  • Fertilising: Herbs generally don’t need much fertiliser. A diluted liquid organic fertiliser every four to six weeks during the growing season is usually sufficient.

  • Pest Control: Keep an eye out for common houseplant pests like aphids or spider mites. A gentle spray of insecticidal soap can usually handle them.

  • Rotate Pots: Turn your pots every few days to ensure all sides of the plant get adequate sunlight.

Troubleshooting Common Issues

  • Yellowing leaves: Often indicates overwatering or insufficient light.

  • Leggy growth: Usually a sign that the plant isn’t getting enough light and is stretching towards it.

  • Wilting: Can be from underwatering (soil very dry) or overwatering (roots rotting). Check the soil moisture.

With a little attention and the right conditions, your windowsill can become a productive mini-farm, providing you with fresh, aromatic herbs year-round.

Happy growing!

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Reclaiming Identity: Why Moving Back to the Land Matters in 2026

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“Growing up, we were taught that the city was everything. But looking back, many of us realise it also brought stress, disconnection, and loss of self”

Those who grew up in the village, all we knew was the simplicity of life; the peaceful, serene environment that surrounded us with warmth and a sign of identity. As we grew up, the land of ‘opportunities’ kept pulling us into the chaotic life of the city.

Lynn Ngugi, a Kenyan journalist and media personality, reflects on how, in 2024 and 2025, many people experienced an awakening.

“Those years opened my eyes to many things and left me with a lot of questions. I realised that as Africans, and even as individuals, it’s time for us to reclaim our identity. Because if we don’t know who we are, where we’re going, or why we’re fighting for change, then we’re going nowhere”

Lynn pointed out that life feels overwhelming for a lot of people, mostly because of the tough economic times. She mentions that while cities are full of opportunity, the non-stop chaos can make one lose sight of who they are. Between the city noise and the struggle to know what to focus on, Lynn realises that if we want to make a real impact, we first have to build a strong foundation, something that keeps us grounded in our own identity.

For Lynn, that foundation starts with the soil. Having been brought up in the village, she developed a love for farming. They lacked many things, but food was always available. Our connection to the land is everything.

“The soil gives us food. It gives us calmness. It reconnects us with nature. At this stage of my life, I truly understand why people say nature heals. We want to be intentional about how we live as a family. We want control over our lives, what we eat, how we live and how we rest”

The beginnings are not always glamorous and fun. It can be a chaotic journey building from scratch, but for Lynn,  2026 is the year to reclaim her identity through the soil that has so much to offer.

She’s a firm believer that anyone with access to a rural home or an idle plot should put it to use, though she reminds us that there is no rush since the journey requires time, patience, and resources. Ultimately, she believes what truly matters is simply having a place that provides a sense of peace

Reflecting on her journey, she encourages her followers to join her in the journey of reclaiming their identity with whatever they have. She’s looking to build a community of like-minded people who value self-sufficiency, whether they are working on sprawling acres or a small 50×100 plot.

She expresses a genuine desire to hear from anyone feeding their family from their land, as she firmly believes in the power found in small beginnings.

There is dignity in simplicity. There is healing in returning to what once sustained us. This is the beginning of a beautiful journey. A journey rooted in land, intention, and remembrance of who we are.

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