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Dating an older partner? Do this…

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A few months ago stories of gospel artist Guardian Angel and his fiancée went viral following what was considered an unusual arrangement, given that Guardian is 32 years old while Esther is 51.

According to public opinion, the couple’s age difference should have been a deterring factor to their union. However, the two are still going strong. In fact, the love birds recently launched a YouTube channel celebrating their rare kind of love that has had many wondering whether it will last the turmoil that is society.

Guardian Angel and Esther represent a community of couples that found love without a feeling of guilt about their age difference. Internationally, we have seen a Hollywood couples with an even bigger age gap. Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones, for instance, have always raised an eyebrow when the issue of their ages came up as they have  a 25-year gap.

ALSO SEE: Does age really matter in relationships and marriages?

Here’s what these couples have to share:

Understand that age is just a number

When the heart loves, it loves. In fact,  some say once in love, the brain stops working. Therefore, the attraction between two adults can not be deterred by age.So long as the two of you are emotionally capable of sustaining the relationship, other factors become irrelevant. Consequently, if you are thinking of getting into such a relationship, consider your compatibility and emotional maturity more than just the age difference.

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Uphold openness and honesty

The big age gap does not exempt such couples from habits that are essential for all relationships.  A healthy sustainable relationship is pegged on communication. Openness and honesty in communication is the key recipe to tackling any unforeseeable challenges such as naysayers who may try to influence your decision. Adapt this strategy for a longer lasting relationship.

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Fully embrace your situation

There’s a big age difference between you two, so what! Who has the manual for how people should live their lives. Absolutely no one. Therefore, if you two find peace and love in each other, forget the age difference and live your lives. Be keen on discussing things that build your relationship rather that wasting time on the fact that can not be changed. However, if the issue of age comes up in your discussions more often, it could signal or be a rabbit hole to more issues in the future.

Appreciate your obvious distinctions

Seeing as your partner is older, try to learn as much as possible from them as they likely have knowledge based on experiences in life. There’s also a lot that they can learn from you as well so build up on these beneficial aspects as opposed to dwelling on the negatives that may come with the age factor.

Seek role models/counsellors

‘No man is an island’. It is indeed true. Isolating yourselves only means having no source of reference from people in similar situations or professionals such as counsellors.  A counsellor  helps establish communication patterns especially in the beginning of a relationship. This is the foundation a relationship needs in order to run the distance it is supposed to.

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Establish common ground

This refers to hobbies, communication styles and how to meet each other’s needs. In some cases, this will extend to your sex life. Practice patience as you try to establish your unique needs. In case one party is unable to meet them at any given point remember the reasons that brought you two together. Understanding should be established you both should exercise patience when it comes to the emotional and mental maturity of the other.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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