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CURE THE BURNOUT THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

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This has been a year like no other – so many surprises that have taken a toll on a people who have become more cynical than ever.

The mega corruption scandals in our country, unexpected events in the world such as Brexit and Donald Trump’s win as America’s 45th president, or even personal experiences such as death or illness of people close to us may have left us both mentally and physically exhausted and perhaps feeling like giving up.

I am happy that this year is soon coming to an end and although it seems to have passed by so quickly, it has not been an easy one.

It has thrown so many surprises my way – some tragic like the death of my nephew and some good like my son relocating back home. Amidst mixed emotions in our daily lives, the pressure cooker is likely to burst and we need time to cool off.

I therefore welcome this holiday season when I can just relax on the beach or any other holiday destination my family chooses. I can’t wait to take a much-needed break to relax and reenergise.

What about you? Could you be near burnout and you are not even aware? Don’t wait for it to reach full-blown, use the coming holidays to relax your body and mind, as you thank God for all his mercies and blessings.

If you feel tired, discouraged and that you have lost the spark, you could be suffering from emotional fatigue. You know you are likely at burnout stage when you often feel fatigued even after a night’s sleep; you have lost enthusiasm for things you used to enjoy; you rarely feel excited about things; you are often cynical about whether people will

keep their promises; you expect to be disappointed even when you try very hard; you don’t have the energy to read or find about anything new; or you are often indecisive.

Burnt simply means emotional and physical exhaustion. It can happen to anyone. It happens when you have been juggling too much for too long – work, relationships, demands of friends and family, or your personal hang-ups.

Add to that the energy-sucking nature of modern living, particularly in our urban centres where you have to cope with high cost of living, traffic, noise and crime at unprecedented rates. If you lack the social support you need, you may end up frazzled.

As well as being physically exhausted, when you are burnt out you loose your zest for life, your curiosity and your ability to love – basically the things

that make life worth living. You need to break this cycle to avoid a full-blown burnout. You need to have time out

– get out of the norm, take a few days off work and just stay at home or book yourself a holiday and it does not have to be expensive. A change of scenery is a great way to give yourself a break.

Make it something different such as a holiday outside where you live, visiting a relative out of town, spending time with the sick, discovering new places such as shopping malls or restaurants, or going for a picnic in the park with a friend. If you live in Nairobi, Karura Forest and the Nairobi Arboretum are serene places to visit and they are also safe. Any new experience can re-inspire.

Having some spiritual belief can also help support you from within, whatever is going on. And science does support the fact spiritual people cope better with external pressures.

They have a support system from their places of worship and can turn to their spiritual books for encouragement. The Bible for Christians and Koran for Muslims are such examples.

You don’t have to be religious to be spiritual – a sense of inner peace and connection with others can have the same effect. Meditation is also a great way to find a sense of inner calm.

When we are burnt out, we tend to lose touch with the childlike part of ourselves. To help you reconnect, ask yourself what you enjoyed as a kid. Whether it was playing outdoors, drawing or painting, or being creative in other ways such as making dolls or cars, treat yourself and try it again. You might rediscover a passion for a wonderful hobby, or just have a fun-filled refreshing day reconnecting with the child in you.

And voluntary work is something most wellbeing experts recommend to help you feel part of a network of people – even if you can only offer an hour a week, it can be hugely rewarding.

Find out what your church needs, or your neighbourhood association, or the hospital nearest to you. Many organisations engaged in community work are always looking for volunteers.

Finally, life is what you make it so find new ways to enjoy it. Spend some quality time with your spouse or friends, but don’t just do the same old things. Find fun in discovering new activities you can all enjoy. Having a new experience with someone you have known for ages can help you value them all over again.

Stop the burnout in its tracks and enjoy the holidays. Merry Christmas everyone!

emathu@parents.co.ke

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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