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BOND OF LOVE: JEFF NDIDI AND RACHEL MURUGI

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A campus love story led to the altar

When Jeff Ndidi and Rachel Murugi began dating in 2015, they did not know that they would have to wait seven years before they could solemnise their union. They share their not-so-straight journey to the altar with MARIA  MANU.

Jeff and Rachel first interacted in 2015 along the corridors of Moi University hostels. They later worked together when Rachel was vying for a student leadership position. Being more conversant with politics, Jeff volunteered to be her chief campaigner. During the election period, they spent a reasonable amount of time together. Rachel’s impression of Jeff was that he was handsome and dedicated; while Jeff thought Rachel was brilliant, a career woman, and a good cook. At the time, they strictly maintained a working relationship.

Though they lost the election, their friendship grew stronger and blossomed into romance in 2016 – after five months of knowing each other.

“The election was a hard season. But, it made us learn about each other’s true colours,” says Rachel, an entrepreneur, social psychologist, and social media manager.

They were both in their final year of university when Rachel discovered she was pregnant. The timing wasn’t right, but they both agreed to raise their child together. Jeff thought it wise to meet Rachel’s parents and ask for their blessing to start a family. Luckily for him, they were open-minded and supportive and went ahead to bless the couple. They also did not ask for dowry.

Surviving headwinds…

Jeff’s aunt, who took care of him after his parents passed on, was not supportive of his decision to start a family at a young age. But this did not deter his plans to take care of Rachel and their unborn child.

“My aunt expected me to finish the university and get a job before starting a family. She was right, of course, but we had this situation at hand that couldn’t wait for me to complete my studies. It took her a long time to accept our decision, which estranged our relationship,” says Jeff, an entrepreneur, men and father coach, and social psychologist.

However, with the blessings of Rachel’s parents, they went ahead to start a family, notwithstanding the financial challenges. The desire to have a wedding still burned within them, but they could not have one at the time.

A flicker of hope finally appeared in 2021 after they joined their church – One Tribe. A couple at the church who knew their story encouraged them to take a leap of faith and set a wedding date. However, they still had to grapple with financial difficulties, having been forced to shut their business due to the effects of the Covid-19 pandemic.

They also now had two children to take care of. Moreover, Jeff still had to pay dowry before the wedding. The process further proved difficult without anyone from his paternal side representing him during their negotiations.

Luckily, their church family stepped in and represented Jeff during the dowry negotiation ceremony, offering psychological and financial support as they planned for the wedding. They both wanted a simple but elegant event, nothing too extravagant. And so they opted not to hire any service providers, with Rachel doing most of the decor for their African-themed wedding.

Wedding at last!

After seven years of waiting, Rachel and Jeff exchanged their vows on March 13, 2022, at One Tribe Church in a small intimate gathering of approximately 100 guests.

During their time together, the couple has weathered many challenges, which eventually made them stronger. For instance, after their wedding, Jeff caught a severe bout of chicken pox that left him incapacitated and entirely dependent on Rachel.

Taking care of her sick husband and their children while still trying to run their business put a strain on their marriage. The parents of two adorable boys, however, emerged stronger and with valuable lessons.

For Jeff, marriage has taught him the importance of teamwork and spending quality time together. He advises young couples that hard times should bring couples together rather than create a rift. Rachel’s most important lesson has been to be gentle with her partner. She also encourages couples to understand each other’s personalities and to be there for each other.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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