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For most parents and students, the back to school period in January is often a time of stress and is even dreaded. The period comes immediately after the festive seasons, often marked with merry-making and extravagant spending, hence leaving most pockets dented by January. ESTHER KIRAGU and WANGARI MWANGI address pertinent issues revolving around the back to school period and offer important tips to parents.

The holiday season is officially over and January is here with us. Schools will soon be open and for many that is a stressful time. If you are a student, you are probably feeling sad that the holidays are over or maybe you are excited at the thought of reconnecting with your friends and are even looking forward to making new ones this year.

For some children, this New Year will mark their very first time in a classroom setup. While for some this is an exciting and adventurous journey, for other it isn’t. It is normal for children to experience feelings of anxiety and be a little scared. Some may even grow cold feet, cling to their parents or guardian, and cry their hearts out at the thought of being abandoned on their first day at school. Joining school is a new experience that can be scary but it need not be that way. With a little preparation, you can help your child adjust to the school environment and experience with ease.

If you anticipate your child will have a hard time on his first day at school, have a conversation with him explaining what usually happens within a school environment. Keep it positive. Refrain from telling him scary stories of your nasty experiences at school as this will only scare him more. Anxiety on the first day of school often stems from the unknown, but with a conversation prior to the D-day, you can prepare him for what to expect. Ensure your conversation captures the excitement of making new friends, learning exciting things so that your child looks forward to a great time in school.

Try and role-play the activities that take place on the first day of school. You can take the role of a teacher and your child takes that of a student. Go through all activities from waking up time, getting dressed, taking breakfast, walking, or being dropped off to school, and finally being picked from school. This is a good preparation for him to know what to expect on the first day of school. Additionally, take your child with you to the supermarket to buy school supplies prior to the start of the year. If you have already bought the items, make a special trip to the supermarket and let him pick out some stationery. This is a good way to prepare him psychologically that school day is around the corner.

Despite all this preparation, your child can still have a bad first day at school and even hate school all together, but this doesn’t mean that you downplay the preparation. Although as a parent or guardian it is natural to worry that your child didn’t have a good start at school, it is important to know that things do get better and with time he will be okay. Give your child time to settle down but if you notice a school term has ended and he is still jittery about school, ensure you talk to him, his class teacher and possibly the school management so as to get to the bottom of the problem.

For most of the on-going students, reconnecting with friends you haven’t seen in a while and joining a new class can make the first day of school exciting. You could try and make the day extra special by wearing clean and well-ironed school uniform or a new pair of shoes, a watch or even rocking a new hairstyle while adhering to your school’s regulations.

It is wise to be prepared and have all the supplies you need by ensuring that the night before you pack your bags, iron your clothes, polish your shoes, and place them where you can easily access them to avoid the morning panic when you can’t find the items you need. Some schools distribute supply lists before the year begins so you can pack with this list in mind to ensure you have whatever you will need.

For most parents with school going children, the beginning of the year is a most dreaded season. The mere fact that schools re-open in January after spending lots of money on merry making with friends and family during the holidays makes this a difficult financial period. There is so much that needs to be done to ensure children are set for their first term in school and most of these require money.

Crowded school uniform and shoe outlets, supermarkets and bookshops often characterise the period before schools open, as parents rush to kit their children in readiness for school. School shopping can end up being very stressful if not well planned in advance. Most schools also don’t accept cash so parents have to visit banks to transfer fees to their children’s school accounts.  If not well planned, the back to school period can leave you monetarily crippled and you could as well be nursing financial and physical stress for the rest of the year.

Around this time everything appears to be expensive, especially when you take into account the heavy Christmas holiday spending. From a far, it appears as though everyone from the uniform distributor to the publishers of textbooks have conspired to increase their prices. Unfortunately, Kenyans are known to put things on hold until the last minute, such that despite being aware that the beginning of the year your children will be needing a new set of school uniform or will be joining school all together, most parents still wait until early January to run to  uniform outfitters, which are normally packed with shoppers.

You can easily glide through these few chaotic days with prior preparation and proper planning. Here are some money-saving shopping tips that could help you cope.

Save for back to school shopping. Setting aside some money for school shopping can save you the hustle of having to struggle with your budget or end up borrowing money. Save a small portion of your income every month throughout the year to use for school shopping at the beginning of the year. You could start with as little as Ksh 50 a month, or more if you can afford. The idea is to gradually accumulate as much money as possible for back to school shopping, so when the time comes you will not struggle too much.

Shop early. However unrealistic this may sound, it is important to make prior arrangements and shop early. Do not wait for the last minute when the supermarkets and uniform shops are crowded, as this could often leave you unsatisfied with the services due to the surging numbers of shoppers in January. When you shop early, chances are that you will have more time to pick what you need in a shorter time and even compare prices from one store to another in order to get the best deals.

Grab opportunities for offers. Most supermarkets and footwear stores give special offers on school supplies in the last week of December. The good thing is that they publish coupons on the selected items on sale in the dailies or other media, giving you a chance to do a price comparison before you embark on shopping. Do not let a good deal pass you, as this is also an opportunity to save some cash.

Look out for quality. While low prices may be attractive, be keen on checking whether the quality is up to standard. Its around this time that substandard goods find their way to store shelves. And because back to school shopping is done in a rush, quality may not be the number one priority and shopkeepers are aware of this. Remember just because something is cheap doesn’t guarantee that it is of good quality.

Prioritise your shopping. Your children probably handed you a scroll with their shopping list but your wallet cannot accommodate everything on the list. Teach your child how to prioritise. Have them pick out the most essential items that are a must-have and drop what can wait for a later date. At this point it is wise to write a shopping list before you step into the shops and stick to it. Since the focus is mainly on saving as much money as you can, having a shopping list will keep you grounded on buying what you need and not what you want.

Buy for the future. Focus on buying in bulk especially for supplies such as exercise books, pens and erasers that need replenishing every so often. It is important to buy in bulk to avoid numerous and costly trips to the retail market during the year.

Pay your school fees early. While many parents or guardians may choose to pay school fees from their income, this can be an uphill struggle especially because most companies pay their staff early in the month of December and you have probably spent all the cash come January. Also, should you lose your job unexpectedly and go without a salary then that means your child’s education could be jeopardised. To avoid this, you should set aside some little money every month towards the school fees account.

You could also use other methods that ease the burden of paying school fees. For example, you could buy an education insurance policy that enables you to save towards your child’s education for a period of time after which you can get the money as a lump sum. Also, look around for various easy school fee payment offers from banks. You could also talk to the school management early enough and come up with a fee payment structure that enables you to pay school fees in bits over a period of time, so that it is less strenuous on you while still ensuring you meet the school’s deadline for fee payment.

Your job as a parent doesn’t end at settling your child in school. Ensure you monitor his academic progress and behavior throughout the year to help bring up a well-rounded student. Attending events in school such as academic clinics, visiting day, parents’ day, and arranging personal meetings with his teachers to know of his progress, are vital. Don’t downplay these activities as the well being of a child depends on many things and your involvement is important.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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