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An old woman in my village died two months ago. She was close to a hundred years. Her husband died during the emergency and she singlehandedly brought up her six children. She never remarried and earned her living by cultivating the three-acre piece of land her husband left her. She would also seek employment as a casual labourer in the nearby Karen estate. She was a peace loving and kind-hearted woman. We loved her and as children, we used to frequent her home where we were sure to get a serving of mukimo (mashed potatoes and maize) or ripe bananas and avocado when they were in season.

In her sunset years, four of her children had neglected her. She had been ailing for quite a while before her death and apart from her two children who took care of her; the rest minded their own businesses. But on the day the old woman was taken to hospital in critical condition where she died a few hours later, the four showed up. Of the six children, three were not interested in knowing how their mother was doing: they wanted to know where the title to her land was. So three children ganged up against three and all hell broke loose.

The old woman had not even been declared clinically dead when they started a quarrel that degenerated into blows. They were fighting over the piece of land their mother cultivated all those years to feed them. They even disagreed over who should collect and keep the burial permit as their mother was gasping for her last breath. It took the intervention of one of their uncles to calm their nerves but only temporarily.

Back at home, the seemingly stronger side took over burial arrangements and decided to occupy the secretary and treasurer’s position of the burial committee. They would take nothing for granted. The other siblings retreated to the background and acted as if there was nothing going on in their mother’s home. One completely kept off the burial preparations.

I attended the funeral and I can write here that the only people who seemed to mourn the dead woman were the villagers. The woman’s children and their children were indifferent. They wanted this done as quickly as possible. Land was all they cared about.

I have written previously in this column about wealth. Why it is important to create wealth so that we are able to care for God’s creation. Poor people, even though majority are deeply religious, are incapable of fully worshipping God through care and concern for His creation because they are limited in resources. But wealth that breaks relationships must be avoided at all cost.

What does it profit a man if he acquires the whole world but loses his soul? How does one find a good night’s sleep after they have disinherited others or fraudulently acquired property?

A similar issue of inheritance played out before Jesus in the Bible in Luke 12: 13-15: “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me,” someone in the crowd told Jesus… “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions,” Jesus answered.

Following this, in Luke 12: 16-21 Jesus narrates the parable of the rich fool who built greater barns to store his harvest. And after he had done all this, he told himself: “You have plenty of good things laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat and drink and be merry”. But God said to him, “You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?” And Jesus concludes: “This is how it will be for anyone who stores up things for himself but is not rich toward God.”

Brothers and sisters, these things don’t matter as much as we think they do. Earthly possessions have just one purpose – to help us serve God well. They are not meant for the granary or the bank account. They are not meant for show or pride. We need to acquire just enough for our daily sustenance. Don’t even worry about what you will leave behind for your children; educating them is enough inheritance. If God blesses you enough so that you have more than you need, well and good: but never let amassing of wealth become an end in itself.

And more wealth doesn’t guarantee you happiness. God alone does. So, brethren, just trust God and live one day at a time, asking for only “our daily bread.” Then pray for good health. That is all you need friends. Everything else is unnecessary bother.

May 2016

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She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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