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Accepting he will never walk again

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Road traffic accidents are a major cause of death and disability around the world. Globally, at least 23-34 million people are left with permanent scars and many others die. In Kenya, over 3000 people die through road accidents every year, most of them between the ages of 15 and 44 years while more than twice as many are permanently incapacitated by their injuries. Ibrahim Taracisio, a road accident survivor, shares with WANGARI MWANGI how he is coping with the aftermath of a grisly road accident.

It is said that journalism takes you places. This time, it took me to Kitini in Machackos County for a story that turned out to be one of resilience, hope and faith from a man who has refused to be put down by circumstances. After a 15 km motorbike ride from the main road, I am ushered into Ibrahim’s Kiratina-ini home by his wife, Muthoni, where I find him comfortably seated on an armchair. One cannot easily tell that it took effort and support from his wife to get him to that seat. It took me five minutes to notice his motionless legs; he is paralysed from the waist down.

When Ibrahim mentioned that he has had three phases, I could not understand what he was driving at. He says that in his first phase, he was young, energetic and strong enough to provide for his family, and all his plans and dreams were falling into place. His second phase carries his darkest moment and he experienced it at the prime of his career. The accident marked the beginning of his lowest moment in his life.

That day in September

Despite being over 65 years of age, Ibrahim remembers the events of September 1, 1996 like they happened yesterday. He had resumed work after his annual leave at the Pentecostal Evangelism Fellowship of Africa where he worked as the acting church overseer. As was custom, he attended the Sunday church service at the church in Kaharati, Murang’a County. “The church overseer was unwell and I wanted to visit him at his Nyagatugu home in Maragua. I convinced one of the church members to accompany me since he had a car. I also invited three other friends to keep us company,” he recalls.

The five men boarded the white pick-up and fuelled it upon reaching Murang’a town before heading to Maragua. Ibrahim describes the terrain as very hilly and one that has winding bends. “As we were driving up towards Nyagatugu, the driver warned us that he was finding it difficult to drive up the steep hill,” says Ibrahim adding that the car breaks failed and the car started to reverse.

The driver tried to steer the car without success. Ibrahim says that he attempted to open the passenger’s door so that he could jump out but it was too late as the pick-up had already hit the barriers on the roadside and was now rolling down the valley. “The two men seated at the back were the first to be thrown out. The three of us in the driver’s cabin rolled down the valley not sure of our survival,” he says.

The car rolled several times before landing on a murram road where they were ushered by screams from curious on lookers that had gathered. All this time, his eyes remained closed due to the pain he was experiencing from his chest down. Ibrahim and his three friends were carried to the main road by good Samaritans and were lucky to get assistance to ferry them to Murang’a District Hospital for treatment.

An X-ray revealed that Ibrahim had sustained cervical spinal cord injury that affected his C1 – C8 vertebrae. This is the most severe level of spinal cord injury and causes paralysis in arms, hands, and legs. This area of the spinal cord controls signals to the back of the head, neck and shoulders, arms and hands, and diaphragm. Sometimes, this type of injury is accompanied by loss of physical sensation, respiratory issues, bowel, bladder, and sexual dysfunction.

He spent one night in Murang’a District Hospital then was transferred to Kenyatta National Hospital (KNH) for specialised treatment. “Most of my body from the neck downwards was swollen and I had lost sensation. The doctors at Murang’a District Hospital said they could not help me beyond easing my pain. They were kind enough to explain that my stay there would only make my situation more complicated,” narrates Ibrahim.

His stay at KNH lasted a few hours as his family transferred him to Masaba Hospital with the hope that his condition would improve, only to be sent back to KNH because of the severity of his injuries. At the private wing of KNH, he was assigned to a personal physician to constantly check on his progress which included taking scans and X-rays.

“At first there were doubts about my recovery due to my advanced age. I was in my late forties. During the check-ups the doctor would prick my limbs with needles to check for sensation. By my third month, I could sit up but they only allowed me to do so for a few minutes daily to avoid causing more harm to my backbone. The fact that I could sit up was a clear sign of hope that I was on the road to recovery,” he says.

With a little of physiotherapy sessions, his doctor confirmed that he would be able to use his hands again but was also quick to inform him that the damages on his limbs could not be upturned. For Ibrahim, finding out that he would never walk again marked another low moment in his life but instead of wallowing in self-pity, he vowed to fight his way out of the hospital bed.

He was discharged from hospital in a wheel chair five months after he had checked in lying flat on his bed. His medical bill stood at a staggering Ksh 300,000. His employer, church and friends did not allow him to worry about it as they organised a fundraiser to the pay the bills.

“One of our family friends who worked as a nurse at KNH channelled her income towards the clearance of my medical bill. I can only appreciate her sacrifice,” says Ibrahim.

Starting from scratch

By the time of his discharge from KNH in January 1997, Ibrahim was a different man. The doctors psychologically prepared his wife and children to a different Ibrahim who would require undivided attention and patience as he recovered from home.

“I was like a newborn baby in the family. I depended on my wife to feed me, bathe me, dress me, and turn me in bed to avoid bedsores, and to place me on the wheelchair. I still did not have sensation in my hands and legs and was not able to control my bowel movement, hence was wearing diapers,” he says.

He has lots of praise for his wife who patiently re-trained him to do most of the activities of daily living such as eating, dressing and bathing. When he eventually regained sensation in his hands and chest, his wife trained him to get in and out of bed and also onto the wheel chair without assistance. Part of his psychological healing from the shock of the sudden paralysis came from constant words of encouragement from his friends.

“We still host friends and old colleagues who visit us bearing messages of hope and encouragement for me. Knowing that I still have people who think about me 19 years after the road accident means a lot to me,” he says.

Fulfilling his dreams through his children

Four of his children were still in school when the accident happened and depended on his salary to cater for their education. His wife did odd jobs and had to abandon them in order to take care of him. Ibrahim says he feels proud of his older children who took it upon themselves to educate their siblings.

“It was not just educating their siblings, they have made my dreams their responsibility to fulfil. For instance, one of my sons plastered the house out of his own volition and went ahead to build a ramp for my wheelchair. I just share my dreams and visions with them and before I know it, one of them transforms it to reality,” says Ibrahim proudly.

As we conclude the interview, Ibrahim points out that he is at the third phase of his life – that of loving and accepting himself. “I have learnt to accept the fact that I will never walk again but that does not stop me from making attempts at walking. For anyone who is undergoing a hard situation in life, acceptance is the first step to recovery. Accept and love yourself!” he explains as we wind up the interview.

Published in January 2015.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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