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IN PURSUIT OF TRUTH

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IN PURSUIT OF THE TRUTH

 

The year 2007 was the first time I ever had an existential crisis. I have always been the little girl with the big voice and I learnt really early that I could use it to get what I want. Coming from a family where I am the last born, a lot of things were done at my whim and efforts were made to keep me in this bubble where bad things didn’t exist. It is in the year 2007 that this bubble burst and my parents lived in different houses. The harmony of our family was once like a calm breeze that carried the laughter of shared moments and now in its place, a tempest was brewing; like a hurricane, sweeping away the familiarity of togetherness.

There were times when I would close my eyes and try to remember my father’s face and it would elude me. He was the center of my universe. So much so, that I made him my identity, which if I am being honest, still is. If you’ve met me, you know that I will always give my first name then my surname. This is who I am and it gives me pride. He was my identity. It therefore confused me that things were this way and I couldn’t help but feel lost. Was I now the child of a single mother? How would my friends see me now? Would I grow up to find him or would I stay by my mother’s side? See the irony here? No? The path that I judged I became. But that is a story for another time.

While my parents got back together, this period would go down as the first time I ever had an existential crisis. There have been many since then. For instance, the 2007/2008 post-election violence would trigger another one, as well as subsequent academic pressures, more family drama and even mundane things like love and dating. The greatest disadvantage from all of this is that I learnt to be meek. To crawl into this space in my mind and hide. To never say what I feel lest I get in trouble. To be voiceless and unexpressive. Which is why it surprises me when people said I have always been bold and loud. I learnt how to sensor myself.

The other day, my little brother came to me with a problem. “I don’t want to go to church anymore”, He said. At the age of 16, he finds himself at a crisis that I once had, not too long ago. He said that the doctrines and teachings of Christianity are flawed and he would much rather be a Muslim. As he was explaining why, I remembered Rene Descartes’ Methodic Doubt whose conclusion is that questioning everything gives you a better understanding of life. In the end, I resolved that whichever decision he makes, he’ll be a better man.

Unlike this young man, I learnt to accept things at face value and never to rock the boat. That when I speak up, my truth is laced with lies, which is something I struggle with till date. I do not have an Independence story because I have never been bold enough to go after it. My peers have gone after their independence at all costs. Leaving their parents’ nest in search of love, education, jobs while I am safely nested in my cocoon. I want to be able to tell my parents that I am dating, without fear of reproach, to tell them that I don’t want to give my son his father’s name, or that I want a day off from being a mother and a student. For 24 hours, I want to be reckless and act my age. But most importantly, that I don’t want to ever be silenced ever again.

In closing, I have this to say. Mahatma Gandhi’s truth was seeing the civil injustices being committed against Indians and dedicating his life to rectify this. The civil resistance ‘satygraha’ was his truth. My truth, is that I will accept myself at all costs. Never again, will I be told to seat still and act pretty and accept. I have found a way back to my voice and I will use it to catapult me into greatness. I’ve found my truth and I’m willing to die on this hill. What truth are you willing to die for?

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7 Things to do to Make Your Kids Smarter

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Raising a child who is curious, resilient, and intellectually sharp is less about brain-training apps and more about the environment you build at home. Developmental experts suggest that cognitive growth is rooted in emotional security and high-quality engagement.

Here are seven evidence-based strategies to help your child reach their full intellectual potential.

Prioritise interactive reading

It isn’t just about reading to your child; it’s about reading with them. This is known as dialogic reading. Ask open-ended questions like why they think a character did something, or the thought process

The Commission on Reading notes that reading is the single most important activity for building the knowledge required for eventual success in reading.

By turning a story into a conversation, you engage the brain’s verbal and analytical centres simultaneously.

Encourage deep play

Unstructured free play is often mistaken for idle time, but it is actually a workout for the prefrontal cortex.

According to Dr. Sergio Pellis, a researcher at the University of Lethbridge, “The experience of play changes the connections of the neurons at the front end of the brain.”

These changes help develop the executive functions, like emotional regulation and problem-solving, that are far more predictive of academic success than early memorisation.

Focus on growth mindset praise

How you praise your child changes how they think. Stanford psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck famously pioneered the concept of the growth mindset. Instead of calling a child smart (which can make them afraid of failure), praise their effort and process.

Say, “I can see how hard you worked on that puzzle.”

Children who believe intelligence can be developed through hard work are more likely to tackle difficult challenges.

Foster early musical training

Learning an instrument does more than create a hobby; it creates a more connected brain.

Dr. Sylvain Moreno of the Rotman Research Institute found that just 20 days of music-based cognitive training produced significant improvements in children’s verbal intelligence and executive function.

Music requires the brain to process pitch, timing, and emotional expression all at once, which strengthens the bridge between the two hemispheres.

Sleep as a cognitive tool

A tired brain cannot learn. Research has shown that a loss of just one hour of sleep can turn the cognitive performance of a sixth-grader into that of a fourth-grader.

“A slightly sleepy sixth-grader will perform like a fourth-grader,” says Dr. Avi Sadeh of Tel Aviv University.

Sleep is the time when the brain consolidates memories and cleans itself of metabolic waste, making it ready for a new day of learning.

Introduce second language exposure

The bilingual advantage is a well-documented phenomenon. Children exposed to a second language early on develop a better switching mechanism in the brain. This allows them to focus more intensely on relevant information while filtering out distractions.

Teach physical exercise as brain fuel

Physical activity isn’t just for the body; it’s for the mind. Exercise increases blood flow to the brain and triggers the release of BDNF (Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor), a protein for brain cells.

Dr. John Ratey, a Harvard psychiatrist, explains that exercise “provides the best nutrients to stimulate the brain to grow and learn.”

When you prioritise sleep, encourage messy play, and praise the effort rather than the result, you are way ahead of the curve. You are raising a lifelong learner, a winner.

Intelligence is a living, breathing capacity that expands when nurtured with curiosity and care. Start with one of these steps today, and watch how your child’s world opens up.

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How to Grow a Functional Kitchen Herb Garden on a Small Windowsill

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For years, I stared at the cramped ledge above my sink and saw nothing but a spot for a drying rack and a stray bottle of dish soap.

I hated grocery trips, overpaying for nyanyas and vitunguus that I have never bothered to know the standard price of. One afternoon, while making instant noodles, I realised that my kitchen was lacking something; it needed a life. I decided to make that windowsill a beautiful, vibrant, aromatic escape.

If you’ve ever felt like your culinary dreams were limited by your floor plan, I’m here to show you exactly how I turned my small space into a functional herb garden.

Assess your windowsill

Before buying a single seed, evaluate your spot:

  • Sunlight: Most culinary herbs crave sunlight. At least four to six hours of direct sun per day. If your light is limited, consider a grow light.

  • Space: Measure the length and width of your windowsill. This will dictate how many pots you can fit and their size.

  • Temperature: Ensure the windowsill isn’t drafty or directly above a heat vent, which can stress plants.

Choose your herbs wisely

For a small windowsill, focus on herbs that thrive in pots and are frequently used in your cooking. Start with three to five varieties that fit your light conditions and culinary habits.

  • High-sun herbs:

    • Basil: Loves warmth and sun. Pinch off flowers to encourage leaf growth.

    • Rosemary: Aromatic and woody. Prefers drier soil once established.

    • Thyme: Drought-tolerant and low-growing.

    • Oregano: Sprawling, but can be pruned to stay compact.

  • Moderate-sun herbs:

    • Mint: Very vigorous! Grow in its own pot to prevent it from taking over.

    • Chives: Onion-like flavour, easy to grow.

    • Parsley: Prefers consistent moisture.

Buy small starter plants from a nursery rather than seeds for quicker gratification and a higher success rate, especially for beginners.

Select the right pots and soil

  • Pots:

    • Drainage is key: Each pot must have drainage holes to prevent root rot. If your decorative pots don’t, use them as cachepots (a larger, decorative pot that holds a smaller, functional pot with drainage).

    • Size: Aim for pots at least six inches in diameter for most herbs. Larger pots mean less frequent watering. Terracotta pots look classic and allow soil to breathe, but plastic retains moisture better.

    • Window boxes/trays: If your windowsill is long enough, a shallow window box can hold multiple herbs, but ensure it still has drainage holes and a tray underneath.

  • Soil: Use a good quality, well-draining potting mix. Do not use garden soil, as it compacts too easily in pots and can harbour pests.

Planting your herbs

  • Gently remove your herb plant from its nursery pot.

  • Loosen any circling roots at the bottom.

  • Place a small amount of potting mix in the bottom of your new pot, centre the plant, and fill with soil, leaving about an inch of space from the rim.

  • Water thoroughly until water drains from the bottom.

Essential care for a thriving garden

  • Watering: This is what most people mess up.

    • Feel the soil: Stick your finger about an inch deep into the soil. If it feels dry, it’s time to water.

    • Water thoroughly: Water until you see it draining from the bottom.

    • Empty saucers: Don’t let pots sit in standing water. Empty saucers after 15-30 minutes to prevent root rot.

  • Harvesting: The more you snip, the bushier your herbs will become!

    • Pinch back: Regularly pinch off the top sets of leaves to encourage side growth rather than vertical growth.

    • Don’t over-harvest: Never remove more than about one-third of the plant at once.

  • Fertilising: Herbs generally don’t need much fertiliser. A diluted liquid organic fertiliser every four to six weeks during the growing season is usually sufficient.

  • Pest Control: Keep an eye out for common houseplant pests like aphids or spider mites. A gentle spray of insecticidal soap can usually handle them.

  • Rotate Pots: Turn your pots every few days to ensure all sides of the plant get adequate sunlight.

Troubleshooting Common Issues

  • Yellowing leaves: Often indicates overwatering or insufficient light.

  • Leggy growth: Usually a sign that the plant isn’t getting enough light and is stretching towards it.

  • Wilting: Can be from underwatering (soil very dry) or overwatering (roots rotting). Check the soil moisture.

With a little attention and the right conditions, your windowsill can become a productive mini-farm, providing you with fresh, aromatic herbs year-round.

Happy growing!

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Reclaiming Identity: Why Moving Back to the Land Matters in 2026

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“Growing up, we were taught that the city was everything. But looking back, many of us realise it also brought stress, disconnection, and loss of self”

Those who grew up in the village, all we knew was the simplicity of life; the peaceful, serene environment that surrounded us with warmth and a sign of identity. As we grew up, the land of ‘opportunities’ kept pulling us into the chaotic life of the city.

Lynn Ngugi, a Kenyan journalist and media personality, reflects on how, in 2024 and 2025, many people experienced an awakening.

“Those years opened my eyes to many things and left me with a lot of questions. I realised that as Africans, and even as individuals, it’s time for us to reclaim our identity. Because if we don’t know who we are, where we’re going, or why we’re fighting for change, then we’re going nowhere”

Lynn pointed out that life feels overwhelming for a lot of people, mostly because of the tough economic times. She mentions that while cities are full of opportunity, the non-stop chaos can make one lose sight of who they are. Between the city noise and the struggle to know what to focus on, Lynn realises that if we want to make a real impact, we first have to build a strong foundation, something that keeps us grounded in our own identity.

For Lynn, that foundation starts with the soil. Having been brought up in the village, she developed a love for farming. They lacked many things, but food was always available. Our connection to the land is everything.

“The soil gives us food. It gives us calmness. It reconnects us with nature. At this stage of my life, I truly understand why people say nature heals. We want to be intentional about how we live as a family. We want control over our lives, what we eat, how we live and how we rest”

The beginnings are not always glamorous and fun. It can be a chaotic journey building from scratch, but for Lynn,  2026 is the year to reclaim her identity through the soil that has so much to offer.

She’s a firm believer that anyone with access to a rural home or an idle plot should put it to use, though she reminds us that there is no rush since the journey requires time, patience, and resources. Ultimately, she believes what truly matters is simply having a place that provides a sense of peace

Reflecting on her journey, she encourages her followers to join her in the journey of reclaiming their identity with whatever they have. She’s looking to build a community of like-minded people who value self-sufficiency, whether they are working on sprawling acres or a small 50×100 plot.

She expresses a genuine desire to hear from anyone feeding their family from their land, as she firmly believes in the power found in small beginnings.

There is dignity in simplicity. There is healing in returning to what once sustained us. This is the beginning of a beautiful journey. A journey rooted in land, intention, and remembrance of who we are.

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