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“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.”
Paulo Coelho, Author

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Sometimes life throws you a curveball, hands you a lemon, or knocks you for a loop. But knowing how to approach failure in the face of adversity is the first step to survival and eventual success.

When faced with a crisis, it can be difficult to imagine the experience will eventually lead to some type of growth. Resilience is a person’s ability to bounce back from adversity and grow from the challenge. Research shows that past adversity can help you persevere when faced with challenges.

Now I can talk about it. Seeing what is happening in the large media houses in this country with the mass layoffs, I would have no reason to feel like a failure. If the big boys are suffering, who am I, a lone entrepreneur, to feel like there is something I didn’t do right?

You see, when Covid-19 struck, I assumed it was a “passing cloud” and in a few months it would be gone and we would be back to our pre-covid performance. Then a year dragged on and our reserves dried up. It was painful letting go of my experienced staff and coming back on board to full-time work without pay while hoping 2021 would be a better year. It got worse and thoughts of closing down started crossing my mind.

With each struggle to pay salaries and other expenses, I lay awake at night wondering where the money will come from. I asked why I was putting myself through this torment. But the painful part was the thought of abandoning such a successful brand built on blood and sweat over 35 years. Thoughts of closure made me feel like a failure.

Then Covid started easing and I felt the worst was over. It was time to put my personal resources into the business as there was light at the end of the tunnel. Our business depends on advertising and this had almost completely dried up due to the pandemic. Living in hope, I was optimistic 2022 would turn things around.

And guess what? The campaigns went into top gear from the beginning of this year and the economy was thrown into the back burner. Things got so bad that I started regretting not closing down in the first year of the pandemic. How could I even think of closing down at this time when we had pumped in so much money during Covid? What a waste! We had hit rock bottom and I needed to be realistic.

The realisation of turning out to be a bigger failure woke me up to reality. I said to myself that there was no turning back. I will not let the brand die. It was time to prove my resilience. It was time to strategize. It was time to rebuild.

It is impossible to live without failing or feeling like you have lost everything you worked so hard for in the face of adversity. Ask all those guys who have given the best years of their lives to companies they worked for and one day they are told to pack and go home as the company can no longer afford to pay them. You will never truly know yourself, or your strength until you have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for if it is painfully won, it is worth more than any certificates you hold.

Many people have tasted failure for the first time in the last three years and many have tried to spit it out. Whether it’s their home being auctioned, their businesses going under, losing a job, or the evaporation of hard-earned savings, the bitterness that accompanies adversity are lessons worth savouring, and if you look hard enough you will find a sweet opportunity.

This testing has been an opportunity for me to think about the future of the Parents brand. A future we shall be soon unveiling with an incredible team and new ideas. How have I done this? Research pinpoints how we learn and make decisions. To the brain, a new thought or idea is like a spider. If it is industrious enough, an intricate web of knowledge spins out from it. What’s fascinating is that failure or thought of it can trigger your brain and enhance it.

Research has identified two distinct mindsets that dramatically influence how we react to failure or the threat of it. One is the fixed mindset, which is grounded in the belief that talent is genetic – you’re born to be what you do or who you are. The fixed mindset believes it is entitled to success without much effort and regards failure as a personal affront. When things get tough, it is quick to blame, withdraw, lie, and even avoid future challenges or risks.

Conversely, a growth mindset assumes that no talent is entirely heaven-sent and that effort and learning make everything possible. Because the ego is not on the line as much, the growth mindset sees failure as an opportunity rather than an insult. When challenged, it is quick to reassess, adjust, and try again. The truth is, we are all born with growth mindsets. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be able to survive in this world.

My experience in the last three years when the biggest failure of my life was staring at me was to dare to face failure head-on. I realised I was in a hole and needed to get out of it alive. The key to getting out of any hole is realising you have not just fallen, but you have fallen into something. I was in a hole that had opportunities but I could not embrace them alone. What I faced needed more than Eunice Mathu. I needed to move out of my comfort zone and embrace new talent.

Maya Angelou sums it all up for me: “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”

 

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7 Things to do to Make Your Kids Smarter

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Raising a child who is curious, resilient, and intellectually sharp is less about brain-training apps and more about the environment you build at home. Developmental experts suggest that cognitive growth is rooted in emotional security and high-quality engagement.

Here are seven evidence-based strategies to help your child reach their full intellectual potential.

Prioritise interactive reading

It isn’t just about reading to your child; it’s about reading with them. This is known as dialogic reading. Ask open-ended questions like why they think a character did something, or the thought process

The Commission on Reading notes that reading is the single most important activity for building the knowledge required for eventual success in reading.

By turning a story into a conversation, you engage the brain’s verbal and analytical centres simultaneously.

Encourage deep play

Unstructured free play is often mistaken for idle time, but it is actually a workout for the prefrontal cortex.

According to Dr. Sergio Pellis, a researcher at the University of Lethbridge, “The experience of play changes the connections of the neurons at the front end of the brain.”

These changes help develop the executive functions, like emotional regulation and problem-solving, that are far more predictive of academic success than early memorisation.

Focus on growth mindset praise

How you praise your child changes how they think. Stanford psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck famously pioneered the concept of the growth mindset. Instead of calling a child smart (which can make them afraid of failure), praise their effort and process.

Say, “I can see how hard you worked on that puzzle.”

Children who believe intelligence can be developed through hard work are more likely to tackle difficult challenges.

Foster early musical training

Learning an instrument does more than create a hobby; it creates a more connected brain.

Dr. Sylvain Moreno of the Rotman Research Institute found that just 20 days of music-based cognitive training produced significant improvements in children’s verbal intelligence and executive function.

Music requires the brain to process pitch, timing, and emotional expression all at once, which strengthens the bridge between the two hemispheres.

Sleep as a cognitive tool

A tired brain cannot learn. Research has shown that a loss of just one hour of sleep can turn the cognitive performance of a sixth-grader into that of a fourth-grader.

“A slightly sleepy sixth-grader will perform like a fourth-grader,” says Dr. Avi Sadeh of Tel Aviv University.

Sleep is the time when the brain consolidates memories and cleans itself of metabolic waste, making it ready for a new day of learning.

Introduce second language exposure

The bilingual advantage is a well-documented phenomenon. Children exposed to a second language early on develop a better switching mechanism in the brain. This allows them to focus more intensely on relevant information while filtering out distractions.

Teach physical exercise as brain fuel

Physical activity isn’t just for the body; it’s for the mind. Exercise increases blood flow to the brain and triggers the release of BDNF (Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor), a protein for brain cells.

Dr. John Ratey, a Harvard psychiatrist, explains that exercise “provides the best nutrients to stimulate the brain to grow and learn.”

When you prioritise sleep, encourage messy play, and praise the effort rather than the result, you are way ahead of the curve. You are raising a lifelong learner, a winner.

Intelligence is a living, breathing capacity that expands when nurtured with curiosity and care. Start with one of these steps today, and watch how your child’s world opens up.

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How to Grow a Functional Kitchen Herb Garden on a Small Windowsill

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For years, I stared at the cramped ledge above my sink and saw nothing but a spot for a drying rack and a stray bottle of dish soap.

I hated grocery trips, overpaying for nyanyas and vitunguus that I have never bothered to know the standard price of. One afternoon, while making instant noodles, I realised that my kitchen was lacking something; it needed a life. I decided to make that windowsill a beautiful, vibrant, aromatic escape.

If you’ve ever felt like your culinary dreams were limited by your floor plan, I’m here to show you exactly how I turned my small space into a functional herb garden.

Assess your windowsill

Before buying a single seed, evaluate your spot:

  • Sunlight: Most culinary herbs crave sunlight. At least four to six hours of direct sun per day. If your light is limited, consider a grow light.

  • Space: Measure the length and width of your windowsill. This will dictate how many pots you can fit and their size.

  • Temperature: Ensure the windowsill isn’t drafty or directly above a heat vent, which can stress plants.

Choose your herbs wisely

For a small windowsill, focus on herbs that thrive in pots and are frequently used in your cooking. Start with three to five varieties that fit your light conditions and culinary habits.

  • High-sun herbs:

    • Basil: Loves warmth and sun. Pinch off flowers to encourage leaf growth.

    • Rosemary: Aromatic and woody. Prefers drier soil once established.

    • Thyme: Drought-tolerant and low-growing.

    • Oregano: Sprawling, but can be pruned to stay compact.

  • Moderate-sun herbs:

    • Mint: Very vigorous! Grow in its own pot to prevent it from taking over.

    • Chives: Onion-like flavour, easy to grow.

    • Parsley: Prefers consistent moisture.

Buy small starter plants from a nursery rather than seeds for quicker gratification and a higher success rate, especially for beginners.

Select the right pots and soil

  • Pots:

    • Drainage is key: Each pot must have drainage holes to prevent root rot. If your decorative pots don’t, use them as cachepots (a larger, decorative pot that holds a smaller, functional pot with drainage).

    • Size: Aim for pots at least six inches in diameter for most herbs. Larger pots mean less frequent watering. Terracotta pots look classic and allow soil to breathe, but plastic retains moisture better.

    • Window boxes/trays: If your windowsill is long enough, a shallow window box can hold multiple herbs, but ensure it still has drainage holes and a tray underneath.

  • Soil: Use a good quality, well-draining potting mix. Do not use garden soil, as it compacts too easily in pots and can harbour pests.

Planting your herbs

  • Gently remove your herb plant from its nursery pot.

  • Loosen any circling roots at the bottom.

  • Place a small amount of potting mix in the bottom of your new pot, centre the plant, and fill with soil, leaving about an inch of space from the rim.

  • Water thoroughly until water drains from the bottom.

Essential care for a thriving garden

  • Watering: This is what most people mess up.

    • Feel the soil: Stick your finger about an inch deep into the soil. If it feels dry, it’s time to water.

    • Water thoroughly: Water until you see it draining from the bottom.

    • Empty saucers: Don’t let pots sit in standing water. Empty saucers after 15-30 minutes to prevent root rot.

  • Harvesting: The more you snip, the bushier your herbs will become!

    • Pinch back: Regularly pinch off the top sets of leaves to encourage side growth rather than vertical growth.

    • Don’t over-harvest: Never remove more than about one-third of the plant at once.

  • Fertilising: Herbs generally don’t need much fertiliser. A diluted liquid organic fertiliser every four to six weeks during the growing season is usually sufficient.

  • Pest Control: Keep an eye out for common houseplant pests like aphids or spider mites. A gentle spray of insecticidal soap can usually handle them.

  • Rotate Pots: Turn your pots every few days to ensure all sides of the plant get adequate sunlight.

Troubleshooting Common Issues

  • Yellowing leaves: Often indicates overwatering or insufficient light.

  • Leggy growth: Usually a sign that the plant isn’t getting enough light and is stretching towards it.

  • Wilting: Can be from underwatering (soil very dry) or overwatering (roots rotting). Check the soil moisture.

With a little attention and the right conditions, your windowsill can become a productive mini-farm, providing you with fresh, aromatic herbs year-round.

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Reclaiming Identity: Why Moving Back to the Land Matters in 2026

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“Growing up, we were taught that the city was everything. But looking back, many of us realise it also brought stress, disconnection, and loss of self”

Those who grew up in the village, all we knew was the simplicity of life; the peaceful, serene environment that surrounded us with warmth and a sign of identity. As we grew up, the land of ‘opportunities’ kept pulling us into the chaotic life of the city.

Lynn Ngugi, a Kenyan journalist and media personality, reflects on how, in 2024 and 2025, many people experienced an awakening.

“Those years opened my eyes to many things and left me with a lot of questions. I realised that as Africans, and even as individuals, it’s time for us to reclaim our identity. Because if we don’t know who we are, where we’re going, or why we’re fighting for change, then we’re going nowhere”

Lynn pointed out that life feels overwhelming for a lot of people, mostly because of the tough economic times. She mentions that while cities are full of opportunity, the non-stop chaos can make one lose sight of who they are. Between the city noise and the struggle to know what to focus on, Lynn realises that if we want to make a real impact, we first have to build a strong foundation, something that keeps us grounded in our own identity.

For Lynn, that foundation starts with the soil. Having been brought up in the village, she developed a love for farming. They lacked many things, but food was always available. Our connection to the land is everything.

“The soil gives us food. It gives us calmness. It reconnects us with nature. At this stage of my life, I truly understand why people say nature heals. We want to be intentional about how we live as a family. We want control over our lives, what we eat, how we live and how we rest”

The beginnings are not always glamorous and fun. It can be a chaotic journey building from scratch, but for Lynn,  2026 is the year to reclaim her identity through the soil that has so much to offer.

She’s a firm believer that anyone with access to a rural home or an idle plot should put it to use, though she reminds us that there is no rush since the journey requires time, patience, and resources. Ultimately, she believes what truly matters is simply having a place that provides a sense of peace

Reflecting on her journey, she encourages her followers to join her in the journey of reclaiming their identity with whatever they have. She’s looking to build a community of like-minded people who value self-sufficiency, whether they are working on sprawling acres or a small 50×100 plot.

She expresses a genuine desire to hear from anyone feeding their family from their land, as she firmly believes in the power found in small beginnings.

There is dignity in simplicity. There is healing in returning to what once sustained us. This is the beginning of a beautiful journey. A journey rooted in land, intention, and remembrance of who we are.

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