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Twenty-seven-year-old Stanley Gatharia and his wife Rachael Muthoni, 25, attended the same college but were just classmates for a long time until love brought them together. WANGARI MWANGI had a chat with the couple. 

When Stanley Gatharia wrote an e-mail to me enquiring about some bridesmaids’ clothes he had seen from one of the stories featured on this column early this year, I was glad to be of help. I linked him up with the seamstress and just when I thought that our communication was over, he requested to be featured in this column.

When we sat for this interview with Rachael and Stanley who had travelled from Nakuru, I learnt about their many commonalities. They share an accounting profession, work in a school environment, and completed their accounting course the same year.

Love thrives from a friendship…

Rachael and Stanley met in 2010 at the Achievers College in Nakuru where they were doing the same accounting course. Their interactions and conversations at the time were limited to their academic work. “He would call me up if he missed class and wanted to have the notes,” Rachael explains. When she finished the section three accounting course, Rachael got a job in Nyahururu and didn’t see Stanley for the next two years.

As fate would have it, Rachael and Stanley were to share the classroom once again when they both joined the same college in July 2012 for the section four of the accounting course. At the beginning, their relationship was just where they had left it – strictly as classmates who shared notes and ideas. But after a while, the tone of their chats changed to more personal conversations and before long they started going out together.

Stanley wanted more than a casual friendship with Rachael and when he made his intentions known, Rachael did not have any objections. Their routine became sharing school time together and hanging out with friends on weekends. They would engage in the sports they both enjoyed such as swimming and lawn tennis and other pastimes such as hanging out in coffee shops.

It was no surprise that Stanley intended proposed to Rachael by the swimming pool of the Bontana Hotel in Nakuru but he ended up proposing at the coffee shop   due to bad weather. This was on Stanley’s birthday – October 5, 2013. The highlight of the day was a dinner hosted for them by Stanley’s mother at her home.

Fulfilling traditions and the wedding…

Stanley visited Rachael’s home three days after the engagement to introduce himself and also let her mother know of his wish to marry her daughter.  Traditional Kikuyu marriage negotiations started in March 2014 and a strong bond was formed between the two families. With blessings from their parents, Rachael and Stanley started making their wedding plans.

They formed a wedding committee made up of close friends, family members and people they worshipped with at their church. They also opened a joint bank account where they deposited their savings to meet the wedding expenses.

The couple held a beautiful yellow and purple-themed wedding on August 2, 2014 surrounded by family, friends and well-wishers at St Stephen Presbyterian Church of East Africa in Nakuru, followed by a reception at the same venue.

“We feel indebted to the committee for offering both financial and moral support and for ensuring our special day turned out to be such a joyous occasion,” the couple says.

We wish them a successful marriage.

wangari@parents.co.ke

Published in November 2014.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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