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BOYS will always be BOYS

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By Ibrahim Kipkorir

The difference between men and women has inspired the book Men are from Mars and Women from Venus written by an American author and relationship counselor, John Gray. Sisters, mothers and wives have a hard time understanding men’s behaviour that often appears totally unpredictable. These are traits that men would like women to understand and let them be.

Women should know that men, young or old, cherish spending time with their male counterparts. That is when his time is his time. You may call him and he tells you he is with his friends and that he will see you later. It doesn’t mean you are less important. He might be watching sports, drinking, or somewhere chatting with his friends. It is not a good time to keep calling him. His absence is his leisure time elsewhere.

Secondly, when a man asks his soul mate to give him something that is within his reach, it shouldn’t be construed as disrespect or that his male chauvinism is taking the better part of him. Instead, all he may want to find out is if he is cared for, loved and respected. It is natural for men to issue commands like military soldiers. Most of the time they unconsciously display dominance.

In the quest for women to learn more about men, they should acknowledge that some men find nothing untidy with leaving their clothes scattered all over the room once they get in the house. With such a character, a woman has to sadly learn to conform to this habit for a while. Some men might take time to change from this or may even, sadly, never change. To him, it is normal. It is simply, not a big deal.

Spending his money might be an issue too. It’s been said time and again that, “what is hers is hers and what is his is ours.” Women love to spend their spouses’ money without a blink of an eyelid. But when a man gives his woman his ATM card and pin number and a list of necessities needed in the house, it is because he trusts her with his pocket. However, that is not a license for her to go and spend more on buying new clothes or shoes. A man might dust off the issue with a smile if his money is overspent. But it is a practice that men hate with a passion. It works against his budget and most importantly he prefers to be consulted first. Men are severely sensitive when it comes to not being engaged especially in matters money.

In addition, don’t take it negatively if your man is reluctant to join you for shopping. Men plan in advance what they want when going shopping to avoid denting the pockets. They will just get in a supermarket and pick what they want. Women, on other hand, can spend an hour roaming in a supermarket as they admire the displays even after they have picked what they want. A trip with his woman to the supermarket is one exercise men dread. He finds it more appealing to remain in the comfort of the house watching a match or playing a video game.

Yes, there is also nothing wrong with a man, despite his age, to love video games and other gadgets. He prefers not to be interrupted with requests to go shopping in the midst of having his moment of fun. He values his car and electronics. The best you can do at such times is to join him at his play station and make sure his dear toys are safe for the sake of peace.

Men love to have control over almost everything. They usually tend to hide their emotions and would silently refuse to agree that they don’t know something. If lost he may take hours looking for directions than seek help especially if he is with his partner. If asked something he doesn’t know he will adamantly admit he knew it and he has just forgotten. No wonder women believe men are so forgetful. Well, that may be so or it may be his confidence just hiding his pride. Men love to rule just by the mere fact that they are men. They hate to be perceived as weak.

Manly virtues may take time to detach. However, if a lady capitalises well on her charms, taming a man to be what she wants should not be a problem. Men want to feel needed. It is such reason that makes him feel glad he fixed that damaged curtain box or tap. It makes him prove his presence is important. Well, guess you can also say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Make him a delicious meal too for boys will always be boys.

Remember Mars and Venus are worlds apart. So don’t always judge your man, learn from this column what happens in Mars and you will attempt to understand why he behaves the way he does.

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Published in December 2014

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

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Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

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Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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