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DECISIVENESS… Ability to decide

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Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s July visit to East Africa and Kenya in particular evoked memories of the historic Entebbe raid that happened 40 years ago.

A few days before the raid – June 29, 1976 to be precise – a French airliner enroute from Israel to France was hijacked from Athens, Greece. Once hijacked, the plane was diverted to Entebbe Airport in Uganda. Majority of the hostages were Israelites and they needed to be rescued and fast. Time was of essence.

But the rescue mission, conducted by the Israeli Defence Forces, could not be possible without Kenya’s help and helping them meant rubbing salt to Kenya’s already frosty relationship with her neighbour, Uganda.

Talk of being between a rock and a hard place. But, suffice it to say, tough decisions had to be made. So Kenya gave Israel the help it needed, the hostages were saved albeit with a few casualties and the Kenya-Uganda ties had to be mended.

The above demonstrates what decisiveness is all about, which is willingness to make decisions even in the face of complexity and uncertainty. The world we live in today has placed so much emphasis on results and for you to get results, you have to act and to act, you must decide. Hence decision-making is the starting point of the result-oriented chain. And as if getting results is not enough, the business world coined the term rapid results initiative or RRI as it is commonly referred to, where results are achieved under the pressure of short time frames and ambiguous targets. This gives no room for dilly-dallying and as such, decisions have to be made fast.

In the face of this swiftness, individuals who are indecisive usually find themselves in murky waters as those who have mastered decisiveness outmanoeuver them. Many people thus fail because they fail to make decisions.

More often, they are indecisive because they fear to fail. Ironically, they end up experiencing the failure they feared because of their failure to make a decision. Being decisive thus calls for courage and not just courage to help you decide, but also courage to accept responsibility of the outcome of your decision.

Decisiveness should not be confused with being egotistical, obstinate or hasty. Rather, it should be seen as ability to decide with speed and clarity. It is also not waiting to have all the facts you need to make a decision but using all the available information to decide on the right course of action.

Truth be told, life doesn’t always present us with sufficient information that can be readily retrieved from wherever and waiting to get all facts at hand so as to make a decision only delays the inevitable.

Procrastination is born out of indecisiveness and this can be irking as no progress is made. Being indecisive is also giving room for other people to make decisions for you, whether good or bad, and you will hardly know for you don’t know what you want in the first place, making you vulnerable to the whims of others.

In times of crises, what the world looks out for is leadership and decisiveness, not blame game and procrastination. Closer home, we have paid dearly when our leaders failed to make timely decisions.

Lastly, don’t look for certainty in an uncertain world, don’t wait for others to make decisions for you and certainly, as veteran journalist and author Napoleon Hill put it; the world has the habit of making room for the man whose words and actions show that he knows where he is going.

REFLECTIONS

Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.
Napoleon Bonaparte (1769 – 1821), French general and emperor

We are given one life, and the decision is ours whether to wait for circumstances to make up our mind, or whether to act, and in acting, to live.
Omar Nelson Bradley (1893-1981), American general

Indecision and delays are the parents of failure.
George Canning (1770-1827), British statesman

Deliberate with caution, but act with decision; and yield with graciousness or oppose with firmness.
Charles Caleb Colton (1780-1832), British sportsman and writer

Everything starts with yourself – with you making up your mind about what you’re going to do with your life. I tell kids that it’s a cruel world, and that the world will bend them either left or right and it’s up to them to decide which way to bend.
Tony Dorsett (1954), American football player

In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.
Theodore Roosevelt (1858 – 1919), 26th President of the USA

A wise man makes his own decisions; an ignorant man follows the public opinion.
Chinese proverb

YOUR THOUGHTS

Lucky is the person who has mastered the art of decision-making for they shall lead a purposeful life.
Samwel Ochieng’, Teacher.

Published in August 2016

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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