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Tips for dating a single parent

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Dating today is complicated and you shouldn’t expect it to be any easier dating a single parent. At times, a huge disparity can arise from this situation and it calls for a lot of understanding to make it work; after all, love is about putting in the effort to understand one another. If you find that you are interested in, attracted to, or seriously wanting to build a relationship with a single parent, bear this in mind.

Time is golden

Not to mean that time is more golden for a single parent but if a single parent is going to be away from their child just to spend some time with you on a date, then that is a huge sacrifice and you better respect their time. This will need proper planning and way in advance because they possibly need to get a babysitter. While at it, you ought to be flexible as there may be a date cancellation should an emergency occur at home. And if this is going to work, you need to be patient and willing to adapt to situations easily. It can be frustrating when you have to cancel a date, maybe for the second or even third time because a child is sick. But this is part of the deal. And forget about staying out for as long as you want, he or she still needs to tuck in the kids at bedtime. So brace yourself for this and be okay with it or else walk away now.

An ex might still be part of the equation

Many people have a fear factor of dealing with an ex who will always be hovering from a distance. So you need to ask yourself if you are up for the challenge. It’s very likely that an ex will be a large part of your lives, or at least until the children turn 18, because of co-parenting or co-custody of the children. You might have to deal with your insecurities especially when you see your partner with their ex and child or children looking like a happy family. But not every ex is dramatic and wants to snatch your partner back. Whatever the story of your partner and ex is, you need to be cordial as the ex may be part of your life for a long time to come. The most important thing is to draw realistic boundaries early and trust your partner.

Don’t expect the kids’ approval upfront

You are probably in love with him or her but you need to brace yourself for any kind of reaction from the children after the introductions. Do not to expect too much from the kids, first be honoured to be included in the most important part of your partner’s life – their children.  Remember you need to develop a relationship with the children before they can trust you and warm up to you, which obviously takes plenty of time. Do not yield to the pressure to impress the children by buying them all manner of gifts; this gesture might backfire when they resent you for attempting to buy their love. Rome was not built in a day so don’t attempt to win them over in a day. And don’t take it personally if they don’t like you right away. Just be involved in their lives, treat their parent well and be genuine. Everything will fall into place with time.

Dating a single parent shouldn’t scare you

Yes, many single parents may not be able to spend every waking moment with you, but they are often mature, responsible, nurturing and deserving of love. Like any other relationship, this one too needs to be built on love, trust, understanding and commitment.  And the risk may be worth it, but you will never know unless you give it a chance.

PUBLISHED NOVEMBER 2015

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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