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Oscar Wanyaga, 28, an advocate, and Rose Nyambura, 22, an IT specialist, have known each other since childhood. Their mothers’ close friendship automatically made them childhood friends; little did they know they would end up as a couple. They share their wonderful story with LAURA KIBIRU.

A FRIENDSHIP GROWS…
“Our mothers have been very close friends for many years – way before I was born. Therefore, as children, Oscar and I would attend church activities and other social gatherings together, as well as visit each other often. We became so close that we were like siblings. I always admired Oscar because he was not only disciplined but also very bright throughout primary school. So when he was admitted to the Starehe Boys Centre, Nairobi, for his high school education, he was the talk of our community in Mukurweini, Nyeri. Despite the distance, away in school, we still remained good friends and often met during school holidays. However, after he enrolled at the University of Nairobi in October 2003, while I was still in high school, we couldn’t meet as often as we wished because of the different school schedules and thus we lost touch,” explains Rose.
“We reconnected in April 2010, at KCCT (Kenya College of Communication and Technology). At the time, Oscar was a student at the Kenya School of Law in Nairobi. We rekindled our friendship but marriage was far from my mind. To me, Oscar was just my childhood friend. He would visit me often and insisted I do the same, but I was not up to it. I finally gave in and his friendship and commitment to me was key in convincing me he was the man for me,” she adds.
“While in Campus, I realised that I was attracted to Rose who was then in her last year of high school. I had mixed feelings about approaching her since I believed it was wrong to have a relationship with a high school girl. I therefore decided to wait until she finished high school before pouring out my heart. All this time I crossed my fingers, hoping no guy would snatch her before I could make my move,” Oscar explains.
Rose moved to Nairobi after her Kenya Certificate of Secondary Examinations (K.C.S.E) and joined college in 2010, but Oscar didn’t have her contacts. His efforts to get her contacts from her friends left him discouraged amid claims that Rose was already in a relationship. Undeterred, he decided to soldier on and finally got hold of her through Facebook.
“To my surprise, she was single but still didn’t accept to be my girlfriend. She made me work so hard to get her, which was frustrating, but I have now come to appreciate the effort,” he explains.

SURPRISE PROPOSAL …
A surprise proposal in October, 2011 at Safari Walk in Nairobi National Park, finally made a way for their mothers to be not just great friends but also family. Dowry payments culturally known as ruracio were made and in November 2011, where both families joyfully blessed the union. “We planned the wedding for August 2012 but postponed it for April 2012 to coincide with my work schedule. The wedding had to be during the High Court’s vacation so that I could get leave from office for the honeymoon. Also, my sweet wife insisted on this date because it falls on my birthday,” he adds.
“I wanted this date to be extra special for him,” Rose interjects.

COLOURFUL WEDDING…
A dedicated committee planned the Ksh400,000 budget wedding. Their friends donated vehicles for that day cutting down on transportation costs and a pastor friend volunteered to be the MC. Also, the bride’s gown came as a gift from a dear uncle living in the USA. A colourful wedding was held on April 7, 2012 at the House in Bloom gardens on Kiambu Road, and lovely reception followed at the same venue.
“Our wedding day was blessed by beautiful sunny weather, that day, despite April being a rainy month. My husband surprised me with a honeymoon trip to Zanzibar, which had always been a dream destination for me. He understands me and will forever be the love of my life,” Rose concludes.
We wish the beautiful couple a happy marriage.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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