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What HISTORY are you writing for Your GREAT GRANDCHILD?

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Sidney Poitier’s “Life Beyond Measure: Letters to My Great-Granddaughter” is one of the books I am currently reading. The renowned Hollywood actor penned the book so that his great-granddaughter, Ayele, gets to know about the origin of her family, herself, and hopefully use the old man’s wisdom to chart her own path in the universe. Well, this is not a book review. The fact that I would like to bring forward is that only those who have something worth reading would take the time to write it.

Supposing you live to see your great-grandchild. Will you be in a position to offer her/him any advice? And if you don’t get the chance to write, will your life be worth telling to generations after you? It is easy to tell. The life you are living now is a chapter in the story of your life. There is no escaping from this reality. If you, like Sidney Poitier, are living every moment so that it counts, if you are spending every one of your heartbeats doing something worthwhile, that is what can be said of you.

If on the other hand you are letting the winds of life drive you, refusing to take responsibility for your life and living a life so undesirable it makes you stink, that is what shall be said about you – forget the colourful eulogies that paint the filthiest soul white; deep inside we know who we are. I am not sure how we came to this but men in Kenya are increasingly becoming a shameful lot. Yes, I mean it brother! We are all over the news for all the wrong things: drunken driving, dangerous driving, defilement, bestiality, murder, child and wife neglect and what have you. Mention Nyeri, and a man is caught in an unnatural act with a chicken; go to Kisumu and a man is killing and burying his victims in his compound. There is nowhere to turn to find a good man – or is there?

But I have heard of times when men were really the bedrock of the family and state. When you got into a verbal agreement with even a stranger, it was enough to know he was a man. Men kept their word – to everyone, including their wives. Yes, there were times when the word man could have perfectly stood for respect, authority, principles and responsibility – those days when men were the custodians of morality; when they asked the heavens for rains and it rained. Where did all those men go? Back to where I started. What would be the title of your book on letters to your grandchild? Would it be called “Life Beyond Measure?”  “Lamentations of a Hopeless Alcoholic?” “Give me another chance?” Or “Accept me as I am?” And what would be the chapters of the book?

Sidney Poitier has written his, and I can tell you it is one you would want your grandchild to read. In it he discusses some of his weaknesses and addictions like gambling and smoking. But he also narrates the struggle he went through trying to conquer them and how he won. His is a story of fighting ignorance and poverty and leaving his family an inheritance for generations to come. He wrote the book when he was 80 years old.  The problem, as I see it, is not that we have weaknesses; the problem is that many of us have given up trying to overcome them. Worse, a good number have become so addicted to vice that the only perceivable cure would be death. But it shouldn’t be that way. The story of our life has to be a daily struggle against evil. Men should be the last ones standing in a duel between them and temptation. That is how it should be.

That is the story we should tell our grandchildren: of triumph, never of surrender! It’s not that I have overcome all my weaknesses. I know mine (a good starting point) and I am busy fighting them one by one. Some battles I’m winning but others are quite tough; but I am not giving up. That is a chapter of my life that I will emphasise to my grandchild.

Dear men! Let us do this for our children, for our wives, for our country and for us. Refuse to get to age 80 and all you can tell your great grandchild is err… well, nothing!

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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