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Love that knows no tribe

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Kiragu Gathaiya and Millicent Atieno met in early 2011 during a youth fellowship in their church. “I noticed him because he was very humorous but I didn’t put more to it,” says Millicent.

As they continued to meet in church their familiarity grew and before long they became bosom friends, talking for long hours over the phone when not in church. They started dating in July 2011.

Dating and courtship…

The couple used the time spent on dates to know each other better. They learnt more about each other’s family and culture. They also frequently interacted with each other’s family. This understanding removed any barriers than would have interfered with their love because of the tribal differences.

“Though I never thought I would ever date someone from the Luo tribe, meeting Millicent and getting to know her and her family opened my eyes to the fact that there is no right tribe to marry from, but the right person. Millicent was the right woman for me and it didn’t matter that she was not Kikuyu like me,” says Kiragu.

Millicent agrees with her husband saying that she fell in love with Kiragu because they had similar values and so much in common, and tribe wasn’t a factor.

The proposal…

Kiragu proposed to Millicent on December 9, 2011. “He came to visit me at my home looking quite uneasy and told me he had lost something. He didn’t say what it was but told me it was in his coat pocket but he couldn’t now find it. I naturally went into his coat to try help him look for it and it was then that I felt something metallic in one of the pockets but before I could even ask whether that was what he was looking for, he asked me to marry him. I didn’t hesitate in saying yes, and then he put the ring on my finger. It was so exciting and humbling,” recalls Millicent.

From that point they started making their wedding plans and informed their parents who gave them their blessings.  Dowry negotiations and other arrangements were put in motion and the couple was excitedly looking forward to their wedding day.

Then the accident…

Unfortunately Millicent had an accident soon after they started making the wedding arrangements. “I fell off a matatu as I was alighting and broke my leg. I was immobilised for five months as the fracture healed. It was a difficult time as I was in a lot of pain and used clutches throughout,” recalls Millicent, adding that Kiragu was a pillar of strength as well her family members. They supported her and prayed for her and this made the healing easier.

Beautiful wedding…

The couple had a beautiful wedding on November 3, 2012 at International Christian Church, off Mombasa Road, followed by a reception at the same venue. The green and brown colour schemed wedding cost Ksh 400,000, which they financed from their savings and contributions from family and friends. With the help of a wedding planner who booked service providers early, they were able to bring costs considerably down, as weddings held close to Christmas can be quite expensive.

The couple enjoyed their honeymoon in the Maasai Mara and is now settling down to marriage life, which they say they are loving and enjoying fully. We wish them a happy and fulfilling marriage.

 Wedding photography by Photo Magic

Published on March 2013 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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