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Love across the miles: Surviving a long distance relationship this Easter

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No one really plans to be in a long distance relationship. In most cases, they are inevitable and happen as a result of various life circumstances. Maybe one of you has to study or work in a different country or town. Or could be you met while one of you was away from home, got into a relationship and you both would like it to go on because you see a future in it. Admittedly, long distance relationships are not ideal. Everyone wants his or her sweetheart close by especially during a festive season or holiday such as Easter. However, there are several ways to cope and make a relationship work when away from one another.

Trust one another

Trust is an important component of any relationship. In a long distance relationship, it takes a new level of importance. By agreeing to carry on a long distance relationship, you are also agreeing to trust your partner to remain fully committed to you. Don’t hold this over each other’s head or keep trying to find out if he has met someone else or why he didn’t call back or reply to your message right away. Lack of trust will only cause insecurity and tension between you and lessen the chances of your relationship working.

Communicate regularly

Communicate frequently, daily or more than once a day, if possible. It’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection when away from one another. Be in each other’s lives as much as possible. Text, call, email, or use video chat calls to communicate. However, limit your calls to once or twice a day, otherwise you will find yourself running out of things to talk about. When writing emails or letters to one another, let your messages be substantive and detailed. Tell one another about your days and the triumphs and tragedies involved in them. Ask for advice.

If you are in different time zones, find a time that works for both of you. It helps to set reminders to communicate with your partner. Whenever one of you gets busy, it’s also important to let the other person know that it won’t be possible to communicate as much, so as to avoid feelings of disappointment.

Find things to do together

This is still somewhat possible even in a long-distance relationship. It definitely won’t be the same as when you are both in the same physical space but it is vital as it offers you another form of interaction and is good for variety, away from the usual phone call or email which sometimes get dull. Find creative ways to connect. Pursue common interests, even when apart. Watch a movie or TV show simultaneously or read a book together and discuss it. You can find many more ideas of things to do with your long distance partner online.

If you can, meet or visit

If you happen to be in the same country but different towns, make a point of planning visits or even meeting halfway and doing something together.

Talk about your future

Assuming that you both see a future in the relationship and possibly hope to spend your lives together, talk about how you’re going to get to that point. Talk about what you both plan to do when you’re reunited. Plan activities and make goals. These actions suggest that your relationship is headed somewhere and will help keep both your hopes up.

Be balanced

Important as it is to be involved in each other’s lives, it’s necessary to allow each other space to live individual lives.  Avoid the temptation to be controlling or taking up all of your partner’s time on calls or any other form of communication. Have a social life and allow your partner to do the same. Pursue your own individual interests as well. You will miss one another dearly but spending time obsessing over it is not helpful. Keep yourselves positively occupied.

Be realistic

Avoid putting unreasonable expectations on one another, regarding visits, communication or future plans. Though not impossible, long distance relationships are a difficult commitment to honour. It’s very important that you want the same things. Talk about your hopes, fears and dreams regarding the relationship. Sadly, sometimes long distance relationships don’t go as planned and one or both partners may feel that it’s too much of an effort. It’s important to be aware of this harsh reality when deciding to have a long distance relationship.

Published in March 2013

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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