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We found love in the workplace

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Often times, the last place most people want or even believe a lifelong romance can flourish is at the workplace. But when love came calling for the then workmates David Wanjie and Ruth Mulandi, they had no choice but to answer it. They speak to ESTHER AKELLO on how they found love in the workplace.

When 32-year-old David Wanjie joined a local media house in February 2013 as a video editor, it was as much a career change as a personal one.

He had just come out of a four-year long relationship that should have ended in marriage and was thus happy to be getting a fresh start. And a fresh start he got as it would be at his new workstation that he would meet his future wife, Ruth Mulandi, now a PR practitioner.

However, their first meeting was anything but promising. “As far as I was concerned, David was an arrogant snob. Can you believe he came over and said hi to my friend and moved on, completely ignoring me,” shares Ruth, a memory David mischievously swears he has no recollection of.

As circumstance would have it, days later, the two discovered that they were neighbours when they bumped into each other at a grocery store in their estate.

“In retrospect, from that point on, it was a matter of time before we got engrossed in each other’s lives. Ruth showed up at my house most evenings and ended up sleeping on my couch. It became a running joke as to why Ruth even bothered to pay her house rent when all her evenings were spent at mine,” says David, adding that he was uneasy with the attachment since the last thing he wanted was a relationship.

In her defense, Ruth cheekily says, “I had no sinister motives. Honestly, after spending the evening at his place, I’d be too tired or too lazy to go home most of the times. Besides, David used to cook and I couldn’t pass up the free dinners!”

By April, the couple, unaware that love was brewing, had settled into a system. “If Ruth called or texted me during the day, I’d know she’d come for a visit without her even specifically saying so. Slowly, the attraction became stronger and then it hit me: I’d found the person I was going to settle down with forever, the short time we had known each other notwithstanding,” says David.

Ruth, on the other hand, was still clueless. Being a party girl with an appetite for late evenings, she slowly started cutting down on evening rendezvous, “I didn’t even notice that my behaviour was changing until one day when on a trip to Mombasa, I made a U-turn and showed up unannounced at David’s house because I’d terribly missed him!”

Things, however, got serious in October 2013 when the couple or rather David noted that Ruth was expectant. “In October, a once sober Ruth became incredibly moody and touchy. I intimated she might be pregnant, a claim she vehemently refuted. As it turned out, I knew her better than she thought!” exclaims David.

It was then the couple got serious about their relationship and decided to start traditional marriage negotiations but put on hold a wedding. As Ruth explains, “We opted to wait and get our now two-and-half-year-old daughter, Zola Njeri, first then have the wedding. I needed some time to adjust to motherhood.”

Many friends also thought the couple was the worst pairing. “Some people believed I was not ‘wife material’. David is quiet in nature while my outgoing personality came with fun-filled late nights, which many people took to mean I was incapable of ‘settling down’, confesses 30-year-old Ruth.

Thankfully, their families were supportive and David put up an exceptional performance as well.

Then on April 4, 2015, the couple solemnised their union with 800 people as witnesses at the Paradise Gardens along Kiambu Road. Their budget was Ksh850,000.

Published in February 2017

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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