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ACCEPTANCE… Pathway to peace

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God, give me grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things, which should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other. Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it, trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will, so that I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Reinhol Niebuhr

Many of us must be familiar with the serenity prayer above attributed to American theologian Reinhol Niebuhr (1892-1971).  In the prayer, Niebuhr is asking God for grace to enable him accept those things that cannot be changed. It is clear that he understood that acceptance is the pathway to peace for fighting what cannot be changed only leads to turbulence and chaos.

Donald Trump recently took office as the forty-fifth President of the United States of America much to the chagrin and dismay of those who oppose his ideals. After his inauguration, chaos broke out in some parts of Washington DC and a day thereafter, the International Women’s March took place in protest of the president. On social media, the bile being spewed towards his administration is indescribable. Yet, for all intents and purposes, he was democratically elected and the sooner the Americans realise this fact, the better for them.

Here in Kenya, after the 2013 disputed presidential elections, the opposition was told to ‘accept and move on’ after the Supreme Court ruled in favour of the Jubilee Coalition. Sarcastic and scathing as it may have sounded, it was a means of pacifying a divided nation.

Away from politics, the beauty of life lies in its unpredictability.  Often times, things don’t go as we had planned and we end up spending sleepless nights trying to force life to align with our desires. In his book The 7 Laws of Spiritual Success, celebrated American author Deepak Chopra discusses how we need to openly receive what happens to us for fighting it is an attempt in futility. According to Chopra, in as much as we might want things to change in future, at the present moment, we need to accept things as they are for that is the only way to make things flow smoothly.

So your marriage has failed and your spouse wants nothing to do with you. Or your employer has terminated your services without a notice. Or you have lost a loved one. The best course of action in such scenarios is to accept the situation instead of fighting it. Thereafter, with a positive attitude, seek ways to make life better.

In dealing with others, it is vital to accept people the way they are and understand that no two people are 100 per cent identical. There is nothing wrong with them being different just as there is nothing wrong with you for being unique. Of course, you have a choice of cutting them off your life and this may work if that person’s life is not intertwined with yours. However, when we accept people for who they are and embrace them, we will be saving ourselves from a lot of frustrations.

Choosing acceptance has nothing to do with mediocrity and resignation. No. Acceptance simply means you have chosen to draw your focus away from the closed door to turning around and seeing the windows of opportunities that are open.

Reflections

Of course, there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.

 

Arthur Rubinstein (1887-1982), Polish-American classical pianist

Acceptance is such an important commodity; some have called it the first law of personal growth.

Peter McWilliams (1949-2000), American self-help author

Happiness can exist only in acceptance.

George Orwell (1903-1950), English novelist, essayist, journalist, and critic

Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what will be

Anonymous

Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.

JK Rowling (1965), British novelist, screenwriter and film producer best known as the author of the Harry Potter fantasy series

Acceptance of others – their looks, their behaviour, their beliefs – brings you an inner peace and tranquility instead of anger and resentment.

Anonymous

Your Thoughts

It is not always that life conforms to our whims and the best we can do is to flow with it and adjusting our sails to weather the storms.

Brian Olouch, Salesman.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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